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Been saying "He'll grow out of it" for way too long. What is wrong with my son???
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<blockquote data-quote="Anxworrier" data-source="post: 565256" data-attributes="member: 15226"><p>I know all our kiddos are unique, but it helps to be on this board and learn from and gain support from those who have been there done that! My difficult child is now 13 and was a difficult toddler, inflexible, explosive, extremely sensitive, very black and white, but in most other ways pretty typical. His temper is what we continued to struggle with. We had him and ourselves in therapy for awhile. I think he did get something from that. But at a certain point we no longer saw improvements and stopped going. I seem to only really deal with his issues when they throw us into crisis mode. A terrible rage at home etc.what I have found is that he DID improve over time. He isn't out of the woods yet, but starting him on vyvanse has been nothing short of a miracle. This is the first time in his life we tried medications and it was because we were in crisis mode with his change to middle school, (the s@&! Hit the fan). He was lying to teachers about his work, not doing the work etc. one thing that helped me long time ago was dr greenes book the explosive child. My parents and in laws thought we were too easy on him and he just needed a firmer hand. Wrong! He is wired differently. And I think there is something going on with some lagging in the prefrontal cortex area. When kids do not react to situations at an appropriate level, their emotional responses are way out of line for the scenario. My difficult child was always contrary, his knee jerk response to life was NO. This is all starting to change and improve! </p><p></p><p>Everyone here will tell you to get a neuropsychologist evaluation done, which we still haven't done...but I would absolutely recommend doing that earlier not later! I avoided testing ears ago out of fear of his rages and behavior when that is exactly WHY I should he me taken him. </p><p></p><p>What you said about almost feeling abused struck me with me because for years I felt that I walked on eggshells to avoid setting him off, and even the most innocent conversAtions he would pick a fight or disagree with me. I could never ever say the right thing to him. I would say the most difficult age was 6-9 And after that he started gaining better self control with temper etc.</p><p></p><p>sending you a cyber hug...you are not alone and not a bad mom!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Anxworrier, post: 565256, member: 15226"] I know all our kiddos are unique, but it helps to be on this board and learn from and gain support from those who have been there done that! My difficult child is now 13 and was a difficult toddler, inflexible, explosive, extremely sensitive, very black and white, but in most other ways pretty typical. His temper is what we continued to struggle with. We had him and ourselves in therapy for awhile. I think he did get something from that. But at a certain point we no longer saw improvements and stopped going. I seem to only really deal with his issues when they throw us into crisis mode. A terrible rage at home etc.what I have found is that he DID improve over time. He isn't out of the woods yet, but starting him on vyvanse has been nothing short of a miracle. This is the first time in his life we tried medications and it was because we were in crisis mode with his change to middle school, (the s@&! Hit the fan). He was lying to teachers about his work, not doing the work etc. one thing that helped me long time ago was dr greenes book the explosive child. My parents and in laws thought we were too easy on him and he just needed a firmer hand. Wrong! He is wired differently. And I think there is something going on with some lagging in the prefrontal cortex area. When kids do not react to situations at an appropriate level, their emotional responses are way out of line for the scenario. My difficult child was always contrary, his knee jerk response to life was NO. This is all starting to change and improve! Everyone here will tell you to get a neuropsychologist evaluation done, which we still haven't done...but I would absolutely recommend doing that earlier not later! I avoided testing ears ago out of fear of his rages and behavior when that is exactly WHY I should he me taken him. What you said about almost feeling abused struck me with me because for years I felt that I walked on eggshells to avoid setting him off, and even the most innocent conversAtions he would pick a fight or disagree with me. I could never ever say the right thing to him. I would say the most difficult age was 6-9 And after that he started gaining better self control with temper etc. sending you a cyber hug...you are not alone and not a bad mom! [/QUOTE]
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