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Been thinking about genetics a lot lately...so is it nature or nurture?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 536103" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Nomad I have been saying this for years. We knew quite a bit about difficult child's birthmother from the beginning and what we did know we naively thought we could prevent from happening in difficult child with the right kind of environment and supports...wrong! Thena few years ago we made contact with birthmom throught the agency in an attempt to get some further input and possibily some help from her for difficult child. We were shocked at the similarities in the coarse that difficult child's life had taken with respect to her bm's. Almost everythign was identical, down to the same type of clothing she wore to the tatoos that decorated her body. Our family does not do tatoos, none of our large extended familyu has any tatoos, yet her bm has them all over her body and difficult child is well on her way to that. BM wears, and has always worn, tie died ****s, even now that she is in her 40's. Of all the fashion tends difficult child could have chosed it is tie died shirts that are her favorite. She is an old hippy-type for sure.</p><p></p><p>Now some of that you can say is just difficult child behavior, the drinking, pot, harder drugs, dropping out of school, loser boyfriends, treatment centers, arrests, halfway houses, abortions, homelessness, but all of it and the same exact pattern, too identical to be anything but genetics, especially when our other daughter has none of those behaviors and neither do anyone in our family. I would guess if we asked what foods she liked they would be the same as difficult child, which like you say is quite different than our tastes. I have always felt that with our birth daughter and difficult child, we were a good study in nature vs. nurture. And we did everything we could to bring them up the same way, involve them in the same activities and give them the same opportunities while growing up.</p><p></p><p>It's all too coincidental for me to be anything other than genetics.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 536103, member: 59"] Nomad I have been saying this for years. We knew quite a bit about difficult child's birthmother from the beginning and what we did know we naively thought we could prevent from happening in difficult child with the right kind of environment and supports...wrong! Thena few years ago we made contact with birthmom throught the agency in an attempt to get some further input and possibily some help from her for difficult child. We were shocked at the similarities in the coarse that difficult child's life had taken with respect to her bm's. Almost everythign was identical, down to the same type of clothing she wore to the tatoos that decorated her body. Our family does not do tatoos, none of our large extended familyu has any tatoos, yet her bm has them all over her body and difficult child is well on her way to that. BM wears, and has always worn, tie died ****s, even now that she is in her 40's. Of all the fashion tends difficult child could have chosed it is tie died shirts that are her favorite. She is an old hippy-type for sure. Now some of that you can say is just difficult child behavior, the drinking, pot, harder drugs, dropping out of school, loser boyfriends, treatment centers, arrests, halfway houses, abortions, homelessness, but all of it and the same exact pattern, too identical to be anything but genetics, especially when our other daughter has none of those behaviors and neither do anyone in our family. I would guess if we asked what foods she liked they would be the same as difficult child, which like you say is quite different than our tastes. I have always felt that with our birth daughter and difficult child, we were a good study in nature vs. nurture. And we did everything we could to bring them up the same way, involve them in the same activities and give them the same opportunities while growing up. It's all too coincidental for me to be anything other than genetics. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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