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Been thinking about this house arrest....
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 365994" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Well, the "good" side is that if they do not use an ankle monitor then she will just ignore the house arrest and go do what she wants. It would save your son a TON of exposure to both your difficult child and the people who hang out with her. I say hang out because they are NOT true friends. True friends tell you when you are being stupid and difficult children don't tolerate friends who say things like that.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry the PO is such an idiot. What are you supposed to do? Lock the door when she leaves and not let her back in? Most states will tell you that is illegal. </p><p></p><p>Whatever she does, call the PO and report it. </p><p></p><p>If she is this defiant what privileges can you remove? Her door can come off if she cannot be trusted to behave out of your sight. Her room can be STRIPPED of all but the mattress (put it on the floor), sheets, blanket and one pillow. The room will need a lamp unless there is a ceiling light, and maybe a desk to study at. Remove her music, makeup, EVERYTHING. Doesn't matter if she paid for it. Until she is 18 she does not own anything. So take it ALL away. Heck, her clothes can be kept in a couple of milk crates stacked like shelves. She only needs 7-10 outfits and 1 pair of shoes (maybe a second pair like flipflops if you feel super extra nice). Make SURE the clothes are NOT ones she really likes. You could even go to a thrift store and buy her some cheap clothes and take everything out of her closet, drawers, etc... If you make sure they are all in the same range of colors (beige, cream, medium blue, faded denim, etc... then they do not need to be sorted by color to wash. Her stuff just goes in the washer all at once (esp if her summer wardrobe is all shorts). </p><p></p><p>She will probably flip out when she sees it. If she destroys things or hits anyone call the police. heck, if she hits or hurts someone or is in a rage call 911. (keep doing this each and every time she does any of that.)</p><p></p><p>I am sorry that the family has to cope with this stuff.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 365994, member: 1233"] Well, the "good" side is that if they do not use an ankle monitor then she will just ignore the house arrest and go do what she wants. It would save your son a TON of exposure to both your difficult child and the people who hang out with her. I say hang out because they are NOT true friends. True friends tell you when you are being stupid and difficult children don't tolerate friends who say things like that. I am sorry the PO is such an idiot. What are you supposed to do? Lock the door when she leaves and not let her back in? Most states will tell you that is illegal. Whatever she does, call the PO and report it. If she is this defiant what privileges can you remove? Her door can come off if she cannot be trusted to behave out of your sight. Her room can be STRIPPED of all but the mattress (put it on the floor), sheets, blanket and one pillow. The room will need a lamp unless there is a ceiling light, and maybe a desk to study at. Remove her music, makeup, EVERYTHING. Doesn't matter if she paid for it. Until she is 18 she does not own anything. So take it ALL away. Heck, her clothes can be kept in a couple of milk crates stacked like shelves. She only needs 7-10 outfits and 1 pair of shoes (maybe a second pair like flipflops if you feel super extra nice). Make SURE the clothes are NOT ones she really likes. You could even go to a thrift store and buy her some cheap clothes and take everything out of her closet, drawers, etc... If you make sure they are all in the same range of colors (beige, cream, medium blue, faded denim, etc... then they do not need to be sorted by color to wash. Her stuff just goes in the washer all at once (esp if her summer wardrobe is all shorts). She will probably flip out when she sees it. If she destroys things or hits anyone call the police. heck, if she hits or hurts someone or is in a rage call 911. (keep doing this each and every time she does any of that.) I am sorry that the family has to cope with this stuff. [/QUOTE]
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