Seems like difficult child has been pushing limits for two years straight since returning from intervention. Every week its something..either we find pot or he does something dumb (speeding tickets, unauthorized withdrawals from atm, cuts a class, stays out past curfew). We have taken to withholding driving privileges as usual consequence and that seems to mean something. he is working harder on his school work last month as the college he wants to attend has waitlisted him and will only accept him if he shows effort in these last few weeks. He is incapable of motivating himself to do it so we have been carrying him academically (I got a 95% on my history project last week!). Even if he gets in , he will do a gap year (which he'll fight us on, like everything else).. Tonite we had a big fight because he wanted to host a party tomorrow night..good news is that while he did start frothing and screaming, the worst thing he threw was a bag of chips, and he actually calmed down and got over it after only an hour of badgering and harassing. So its been a 2.5 year journey that feels like a decade and he does seem to be maturing and focusing on his future some, but he is still up for anything stupid and who knows if his enthusiasm for self destructive behavior will ever be balanced by his responsibilities as he enters adulthood. in 5 years time, he could either be a college graduate, be living in our basement, in the army, or on the street...I think he'll always come back because he likes creature comforts and warmth of home...I don't know does it sound like its getting better??