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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 129059"><p>Mikey </p><p>I must share my experience, possibly what wife is feeling, and going through.</p><p> </p><p>Many years ago I was living in a very abusive relationship. this was back when there was no Domestic Violence Law. If he were to go to jail, I would have to put him there. I had police tell me "you must like it, you have witnesses who called and you won't sign the complaint". I had friends tell me that. I lost all friends. Lost my job.</p><p>Had a son. Didn't all those people realize if I put him in jail, he would be out the next day. If he beat me this bad now...what would he do when he got out????</p><p>Anyway the part of this story that I can relate with wife is the fact that he always came back with flowers. With candy. with a gift and a card. He always told me in such a loving way how sorry he was. How this would never ever happen again.</p><p> </p><p>My heart wanted to believe him so much. My head knew it was only a matter of time. My heart won for a very long time.</p><p> </p><p>Finally, I snuck out and attended a meeting at the family violence center. I had been hurt one to many times. They supplied child care and I attended a meeting. I didn't talk at first. When I tried, I cried too hard. Eventually, I could talk. Eventually I saw people come in who were like I was. And I realized that I had become a very strong person. Nobody was going to hurt me ever again.</p><p> </p><p>It took me a good three years before I went to that meeting. You couldn't even imagine the things that happened. Like a TV movie ending tragically.</p><p>It took me until I just could not take anymore pain. I couldn't believe what my heart</p><p>wanted any longer.</p><p> </p><p>It took those meetings to make me realize how strong I really was. It took all those other people who knew how I felt. Who have been there, are there. I could not let my son grow up in a home like that. This is MY life and nobody has the right to hurt me.</p><p>I honestly believe you can only be hurt so many times. You can only believe your heart so many times when you know in your head what the truth really is. I believe wife will come around in her own time. I had nobody to lash out at. My family and friends all abandoned me after years of telling me to leave, and years of me going right back. This had to be my decision. Just as it has to be wife's. And McWeedy's decision when he wants to change. When he hits that brick wall and there is nobody there to pick him up...he will make a choice.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 129059"] Mikey I must share my experience, possibly what wife is feeling, and going through. Many years ago I was living in a very abusive relationship. this was back when there was no Domestic Violence Law. If he were to go to jail, I would have to put him there. I had police tell me "you must like it, you have witnesses who called and you won't sign the complaint". I had friends tell me that. I lost all friends. Lost my job. Had a son. Didn't all those people realize if I put him in jail, he would be out the next day. If he beat me this bad now...what would he do when he got out???? Anyway the part of this story that I can relate with wife is the fact that he always came back with flowers. With candy. with a gift and a card. He always told me in such a loving way how sorry he was. How this would never ever happen again. My heart wanted to believe him so much. My head knew it was only a matter of time. My heart won for a very long time. Finally, I snuck out and attended a meeting at the family violence center. I had been hurt one to many times. They supplied child care and I attended a meeting. I didn't talk at first. When I tried, I cried too hard. Eventually, I could talk. Eventually I saw people come in who were like I was. And I realized that I had become a very strong person. Nobody was going to hurt me ever again. It took me a good three years before I went to that meeting. You couldn't even imagine the things that happened. Like a TV movie ending tragically. It took me until I just could not take anymore pain. I couldn't believe what my heart wanted any longer. It took those meetings to make me realize how strong I really was. It took all those other people who knew how I felt. Who have been there, are there. I could not let my son grow up in a home like that. This is MY life and nobody has the right to hurt me. I honestly believe you can only be hurt so many times. You can only believe your heart so many times when you know in your head what the truth really is. I believe wife will come around in her own time. I had nobody to lash out at. My family and friends all abandoned me after years of telling me to leave, and years of me going right back. This had to be my decision. Just as it has to be wife's. And McWeedy's decision when he wants to change. When he hits that brick wall and there is nobody there to pick him up...he will make a choice. Good luck to you. [/QUOTE]
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