I have a question, and it may be better asked to our therapist, but I am very interested to hear what you all have to say about it, since many of you have surely faced the same dilemma... I have heard about sticker charts, or rules posted, things of this sort. I have totally got the whole rewarding vs. loss of privileges thing, but the charts and tracking for the child is the part I have hesitated to try. Our difficult child is 12 years old, and even though she finds it appropriate to throw herself face down in our floor and throw a kicking and screaming tantrum (that VERY CLOSELY MIRRORS that of our three year old who is experimenting with temper tantrums at the APPROPRIATE age to do so), she is constantly complaining that we treat her like a two year old. I am sure that she would resist such charts, simply because we have similar things in place for our easy child's who are 3 and 5. Is there another way of keeping track of her progress, in a way that is positive for everyone and in a place that she and we all see it on a regular basis?? Also, in trying the "positive reinforcement" approach, has anyone else ever encountered the problem that, even in simply trying to praise them for doing something good in an appropriate way, and letting them know that you noticed and appreciated it, can still cause them to rage?!?!?! I obviously have come to prepare myself for the rage anytime I ask her to do anything, even something as simple as putting on her shoes. But I found it very peculiar that praise and appreciation for good behavior would cause her to rage... We have been very consistent with either taking away privileges or adding additional chores/writing assignments for negative behaviors, but we are very hesitant to point out the positives, becuase it creates all these problems, and we try very hard not to trigger her unnecessarily. Also, I hear several of you talking about Basket A, Basket B, and Basket C, which I have caught on to being the level of priority for certain behaviors and a way to plan out how you want to "pick your battles". Is this something that you have learned in counseling sessions with your difficult child's, or is this something that you all have put together as a team?? I would like to get some more information on this method, as I feel it would be very beneficial to my husband and I to try something like this to prioritize our difficult child's behaviors.