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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 576064" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>TL,</p><p>I was really touched by what your friend said and have been stewing about it all day. I</p><p> have an actual restful day after months of stress and I choose to stew about these words...go figure!</p><p>I value them since your friend has been down the road, and because difficult child told me the other day that</p><p>she feels I can never be happy for her progress, it was never enough, and I am always suspicious and waiting</p><p>for her to screw up. I usually never give up, am hopeful and rather optimistic. I thought it was a strength and found out</p><p>it could also be a problem leading to codependence. Yet....if we put hopeless vibes out and fear is always in the back of our minds</p><p>are we not asking for the Universe to send that other shoe dropping ASAP? We are moms and we are the most emotionally connected</p><p>to our kids, it just is natures plan. I WANT TO TRY AND RECOGNIZE THE GOOD...even in the throws of caos. I want to do it in an</p><p>authentic way which does not toss me back into the deapest throws of codependence and that is "healthy". I dont know what that</p><p>looks like yet. I do know that I am a good mom, just as you are. I have done the best I could at each moment. I really think that gives</p><p>our kids a leg up. I am hoping for latent learning for my difficult child, who is delayed in skills because of using,MH issues, and so much time out of</p><p>the real world due to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement. I am going to try and turn off major anxiety about difficult child, it helps noone. Maybe this will help with</p><p>the waiting for her to screw up yet again. I am going to remember that step number one and give this to my higher power. Do you have any </p><p>ideas?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 576064, member: 11001"] TL, I was really touched by what your friend said and have been stewing about it all day. I have an actual restful day after months of stress and I choose to stew about these words...go figure! I value them since your friend has been down the road, and because difficult child told me the other day that she feels I can never be happy for her progress, it was never enough, and I am always suspicious and waiting for her to screw up. I usually never give up, am hopeful and rather optimistic. I thought it was a strength and found out it could also be a problem leading to codependence. Yet....if we put hopeless vibes out and fear is always in the back of our minds are we not asking for the Universe to send that other shoe dropping ASAP? We are moms and we are the most emotionally connected to our kids, it just is natures plan. I WANT TO TRY AND RECOGNIZE THE GOOD...even in the throws of caos. I want to do it in an authentic way which does not toss me back into the deapest throws of codependence and that is "healthy". I dont know what that looks like yet. I do know that I am a good mom, just as you are. I have done the best I could at each moment. I really think that gives our kids a leg up. I am hoping for latent learning for my difficult child, who is delayed in skills because of using,MH issues, and so much time out of the real world due to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement. I am going to try and turn off major anxiety about difficult child, it helps noone. Maybe this will help with the waiting for her to screw up yet again. I am going to remember that step number one and give this to my higher power. Do you have any ideas? [/QUOTE]
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