JKF
Well-Known Member
Our best friends are getting divorced. husband has known them both since grade school and I've known them for the last 12 years. We are definitely close to both of them - we've vacationed with them quite a few times and have hung out with them more times than I could ever begin to count. He was our best man - she the maid of honor. They even lived next door for years. Anyway - you get the picture.
I'm finding myself stuck in the middle. She's very into "loyalty" and wants me to be on her side. She's a HUGE difficult child. He's a difficult child as well but not nearly as bad. She has major issues to say the least. Yes - I agree that he left her abruptly and could have gone about it in a more civilized way but I also get WHY he left her. But I could never tell her that because she would freak. She thinks it's all him - but honestly she drove him away with her beyond crazy behavior.
This is turning into a very ugly divorce and I want nothing to do with it but it would be impossible to just walk away. Uggggh! Any suggestions on handling divorce between friends?? We want to stay neutral but both sides are trying to drag us in.
I'm finding myself stuck in the middle. She's very into "loyalty" and wants me to be on her side. She's a HUGE difficult child. He's a difficult child as well but not nearly as bad. She has major issues to say the least. Yes - I agree that he left her abruptly and could have gone about it in a more civilized way but I also get WHY he left her. But I could never tell her that because she would freak. She thinks it's all him - but honestly she drove him away with her beyond crazy behavior.
This is turning into a very ugly divorce and I want nothing to do with it but it would be impossible to just walk away. Uggggh! Any suggestions on handling divorce between friends?? We want to stay neutral but both sides are trying to drag us in.