Well, we had mediation today with x. X has been picking fights over anything he could lately. I'm sure he went to this mediation with the attitude of the mediator will "make" me bow to his wishes. What happened is very different; the mediator first listened to x's requests. Then she brought those requests to us and listened to our requests. Then she went back to the room with x and his lawyer and in her words "had a testosterone match." Eventually, she got him to agree to the visitation schedule the court dictated before and to most of the cost of the court appointed 3rd party drop-off place. She also got him to agree to go to therapy with difficult child 1 and that the therapist has a say in how much visitation time he gets. She even got him to agree to let me have all of mother's day weekend. She was very sympathetic with me by the end of this. I'm amazed that she could do all this. Towards the end I think the mediator and his lawyer were kinda ganging up on him to get him to agree to things.