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<blockquote data-quote="ElizabethL" data-source="post: 653239" data-attributes="member: 18900"><p>I think it's more, if he's terrible at home then he isn't allowed to go out, and I take his stuff away until he loses his attitude. That happens when he's terrible at school, but it's not as immediate as it is at home. I also don't want him in the house all the time, so I can't ground him forever. </p><p></p><p>He hates school. Doesn't see the point in it. He feels he'll be just fine out in the world without an education. I don't know how to explain to him why it's important to at least get a diploma without using an if-then statement (If you don't graduate high school, then you won't get a good job). If-then statements tend to imply a consequence and reward, and he automatically aims to prove the consequence won't happen, and will get the reward even if he does his worst. </p><p></p><p>He doesn't see the point in a lot of things, and getting him to do those things is a hassle. Common things, like taking a shower (why? I'm just going to need to take another one tomorrow), cleaning his room (again, why? It'll just get dirty again). Normally a firm, because I said so, helps get him to do things. No if-then's on 'You stink- go shower'. I use to consider that as normal kid stuff, until he also included life itself in his pointless ponderings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ElizabethL, post: 653239, member: 18900"] I think it's more, if he's terrible at home then he isn't allowed to go out, and I take his stuff away until he loses his attitude. That happens when he's terrible at school, but it's not as immediate as it is at home. I also don't want him in the house all the time, so I can't ground him forever. He hates school. Doesn't see the point in it. He feels he'll be just fine out in the world without an education. I don't know how to explain to him why it's important to at least get a diploma without using an if-then statement (If you don't graduate high school, then you won't get a good job). If-then statements tend to imply a consequence and reward, and he automatically aims to prove the consequence won't happen, and will get the reward even if he does his worst. He doesn't see the point in a lot of things, and getting him to do those things is a hassle. Common things, like taking a shower (why? I'm just going to need to take another one tomorrow), cleaning his room (again, why? It'll just get dirty again). Normally a firm, because I said so, helps get him to do things. No if-then's on 'You stink- go shower'. I use to consider that as normal kid stuff, until he also included life itself in his pointless ponderings. [/QUOTE]
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