Just need a reality check...
Last night over a very pleasant dinner, difficult child relays a story where his best friend made an insensitive comment and difficult child pointed out the insensitivity without there being a big dust up. We were really proud of difficult child that he took the position he did and praised him for standing on the right side of what is essentially a social justice issue.
This morning, I am going through difficult child IM logs and I find out that his friend Kaye is the one that took on difficult child's best friend when the best friend made the insensitive comment. Our difficult child agreed with Kaye that best friend can be a pain, and told her stories where best friend has accused difficult child of being too righteous. Bottom line: difficult child didn't have this 'social justice' conversation with best friend, Kaye did.
I feel bad because we gave him such praise for standing up for the right thing--something he doesn't always do--and now it turns out, it wasn't really him who said it. In fact, difficult child wasn't even in school the day it happened!
So two questions: should I call him on it or let it slide because there really are worst lies to tell? Or, is this the sign of a more troubling behavior? He is a difficult child after all and lying is one of his part-time jobs.
Like I said, it's minor but...
Last night over a very pleasant dinner, difficult child relays a story where his best friend made an insensitive comment and difficult child pointed out the insensitivity without there being a big dust up. We were really proud of difficult child that he took the position he did and praised him for standing on the right side of what is essentially a social justice issue.
This morning, I am going through difficult child IM logs and I find out that his friend Kaye is the one that took on difficult child's best friend when the best friend made the insensitive comment. Our difficult child agreed with Kaye that best friend can be a pain, and told her stories where best friend has accused difficult child of being too righteous. Bottom line: difficult child didn't have this 'social justice' conversation with best friend, Kaye did.
I feel bad because we gave him such praise for standing up for the right thing--something he doesn't always do--and now it turns out, it wasn't really him who said it. In fact, difficult child wasn't even in school the day it happened!
So two questions: should I call him on it or let it slide because there really are worst lies to tell? Or, is this the sign of a more troubling behavior? He is a difficult child after all and lying is one of his part-time jobs.
Like I said, it's minor but...