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Bipolar adult son, is wanting to move back in.
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<blockquote data-quote="MeMyselfandIandkids" data-source="post: 745520" data-attributes="member: 23547"><p>I havent read the other replies so i dont know what has been said or hasnt but i wanted to message you from a different perspective. Kinda. </p><p>I am 28 and far incontrol of my emotions and troubles now BUT.. when i was 22 23 i had an addiction problem and i am bipolar and can relate to your son .. Not so extreme but can relate. That said.. I am not here to stick up for him .</p><p>Dont feel any guilt associated with distancing yourself from him amd protecting the younger. If he EVER gets help and grows out of it hell understand and the first thing youll here from him is how sorry he is and obvioulsy hes not anywhere near that but only wanting to use and abuse what he can. </p><p>Cut him off. If every onve in awhile you want to send money to help because no one else will good job dad. But dont make contact. Let him know that hes cut and you have no interest in speaking to him. What this will do is get him from hovering when he needs something and putting your family on edge. If he knows you have no weak spots or interest he wont have something to feed off of or fall back on when hes at rock bottom. </p><p>I hope that made sense. </p><p>It also is the only way he will do 1 of 2 </p><p>Go on his own persuing his crazy life that lands him in prison or 2 force him to go help himself. </p><p>Either way. Make it clear you have no interest or care anymore WITHOUT BEING HOSTILE OR CREATING MORE CONFLICT. in other words dont answer his call he says ur not his dad. Fine your not my son. Thats fine. </p><p>Coming from the once troubled child in the family. This will create a safe distance. If done correctly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MeMyselfandIandkids, post: 745520, member: 23547"] I havent read the other replies so i dont know what has been said or hasnt but i wanted to message you from a different perspective. Kinda. I am 28 and far incontrol of my emotions and troubles now BUT.. when i was 22 23 i had an addiction problem and i am bipolar and can relate to your son .. Not so extreme but can relate. That said.. I am not here to stick up for him . Dont feel any guilt associated with distancing yourself from him amd protecting the younger. If he EVER gets help and grows out of it hell understand and the first thing youll here from him is how sorry he is and obvioulsy hes not anywhere near that but only wanting to use and abuse what he can. Cut him off. If every onve in awhile you want to send money to help because no one else will good job dad. But dont make contact. Let him know that hes cut and you have no interest in speaking to him. What this will do is get him from hovering when he needs something and putting your family on edge. If he knows you have no weak spots or interest he wont have something to feed off of or fall back on when hes at rock bottom. I hope that made sense. It also is the only way he will do 1 of 2 Go on his own persuing his crazy life that lands him in prison or 2 force him to go help himself. Either way. Make it clear you have no interest or care anymore WITHOUT BEING HOSTILE OR CREATING MORE CONFLICT. in other words dont answer his call he says ur not his dad. Fine your not my son. Thats fine. Coming from the once troubled child in the family. This will create a safe distance. If done correctly. [/QUOTE]
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