If the only thing stopping someone from having premarital sex is whether contraception is available, then there frankly is no point in insisting on abstinence, they've missed the point and anything you've taught them on this issue has done as much as it's going to do. Go ahead and put them on hormones.
And I agree with you, Linda - calling it 'hormones' around kt is best, considering what you're dealing with, in her.
My sister went on the Pill for regulating her periods, when she was 15 (back in the Sixties). And that IS what it was for. When it turned out to be related to a grumbling appendix, and surgery fixed a lot of problems, she went off the Pill. And back then, the Pill was ten times stronger than now (or even more). And because I was so very much younger and very curious, the family were told it was hormones, not the Pill.
Dore, we don't have programs like this in Australia, but I've been around this site for a while and what I have seen - a lot of these programs promise a great deal but the reality falls far short. You are right, a lot of parents are NOT getting what they are paying for. So what do you do? You work something out for yourself, as a parent. There are ideals in this world, then there is reality. And when it comes down to reality, WE are the ones who will be left holding the baby. It stinks, but that's life.
Our second daughter, easy child 2/difficult child 2, has "round heels". We were very glad she didn't have a boyfriend through high school - she felt too far above most of the boys around her and totally scared them off. We were fairly sure she would sleep with her first boyfriend - we describe her as a "cuddlebunny" because she would come up to us for a hug, a cuddle, any sort of physical embrace with total lack of inhibition. Yes, we tried to raise her to be discerning and to have some sense of self-respect, but we were fairly sure that she would find it too hard to abstain for long when she finally got the opportunity. If a hug or a cuddle feels so nice that she was always seeking them out, we knew it would take very little to hook her into sex.
She's not promiscuous, but she's still a devastating little bundle of love for any red-blooded male. Plus she's absolutely gorgeous and doesn't know it - totally, unconsciously sensual. We knew when "it" had happened when her boyfriend was wandering around looking stunned, with a smile on his face that nothing could hide. She's a darling, but has no restraint. Or had. She's a bit older and a bit more responsible now. Less obviously tactile.
We didn't put her on the Pill as soon as she got a boyfriend; we waited as long as we could. Of course we had told her to use contraception; we told her where we keep the condoms and to help herself rather than take risks, but to please wait if she could to avoid doing devastating emotional damage to the guy. She didn't wait, and when she broke up with the guy she saw first-hand the consequences of the emotional damage she had done to him. Sometimes you have to learn the hard way.
But as soon as it became necessary, THEN we got her on the Pill, AND made her take responsibility as much as possible for her sexual health, and her boyfriend's. But this is for an older girl - she was 18 at the time.
A younger girl who HAS to have some protection but who can't be trusted to take the Pill reliably - an implant may be the way to go. And encourage her to refer to it as hormones, not contraception. There are other big benefits to hormone treatment - her boobs will grow (a big bonus for our daughter). Her periods will settle down. Or stop for a while. This will help her iron levels to improve. No period pain (which used to wipe me out at school).
The immunisation against HPV is worth chasing up NOW, if you can. easy child 2/difficult child 2 is only now getting hers, all we can hope is that she hasn't already been exposed to the virus by her first two BFs (she's still with BF2 - or rather, he is with us; he lives with us now).
In this world we have ideals, then we have the reality. As parents we aim for one but live with the other (unless we live in denial). Then we have to justify our actions to those who haven't yet had to deal with the reality and who seem so very virtuous in condemning us for 'compromising'. I've copped flak from people we know, and I've held my tongue and NOT said to them, "Look to your own household before you criticise mine." My kids talk to me, that is how I know we are doing the best we can. because my kids also talk to me about the other kids, whose parents do not consider the possibility that they are not as pure as they'd like to believe.
It's so sad sometimes. Just do what you think is best - she's your child, you know her best.
Marg