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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 140062" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><strong>Nancy,</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Listen to Star - she's brought up many valid & genuine points from a very personal viewpoint. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Sweetie, kt & wm are already talking about searching for "mom". How life will be wonderful once they meet her. According to wm I'm supposed to buy bio mom a dog & help them buy a house. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/targetpractice.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":targetpractice:" title="targetpractice :targetpractice:" data-shortname=":targetpractice:" /> Not likely! </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Having said that, I have expected this from the tweedles for years & anticipate the search for bio (hazard) mom when they are old enough to do it. Both kt & wm have written letters to BM - some were hurtful to read. Others were questions to BM - why didn't you keep me safe, why did you hurt me type of letter. The hardest were the letters filled with plans for when they could all move together under one roof. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>I had to learn, as someone said earlier, that all these "fantasies" were not about me. Rather, I had to accept these letters were how the tweedles thought life should have been - not the reality.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>AND I had to learn not to react. I, to this day, reply very little or say hmmmm, maybe. I've almost become numb to this fantasy.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Yup, take that knife out of your heart. You have been the best mom in the world for your difficult child. She may or may not eventually understand that. (If she doesn't I may come on over & kick her young butt! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/bigsmile.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":bigsmile:" title="big smile :bigsmile:" data-shortname=":bigsmile:" />) Life isn't fair AND your difficult child has had so many advantages because of you & husband. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>While the grass may always look greener - no one knows what poisons were used to achieve that look.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>((((hugs))))</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong></strong></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 140062, member: 393"] [B]Nancy, Listen to Star - she's brought up many valid & genuine points from a very personal viewpoint. Sweetie, kt & wm are already talking about searching for "mom". How life will be wonderful once they meet her. According to wm I'm supposed to buy bio mom a dog & help them buy a house. :targetpractice: Not likely! Having said that, I have expected this from the tweedles for years & anticipate the search for bio (hazard) mom when they are old enough to do it. Both kt & wm have written letters to BM - some were hurtful to read. Others were questions to BM - why didn't you keep me safe, why did you hurt me type of letter. The hardest were the letters filled with plans for when they could all move together under one roof. I had to learn, as someone said earlier, that all these "fantasies" were not about me. Rather, I had to accept these letters were how the tweedles thought life should have been - not the reality. AND I had to learn not to react. I, to this day, reply very little or say hmmmm, maybe. I've almost become numb to this fantasy. Yup, take that knife out of your heart. You have been the best mom in the world for your difficult child. She may or may not eventually understand that. (If she doesn't I may come on over & kick her young butt! :bigsmile:) Life isn't fair AND your difficult child has had so many advantages because of you & husband. While the grass may always look greener - no one knows what poisons were used to achieve that look. ((((hugs)))) [/B] [/QUOTE]
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