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<blockquote data-quote="dirobb" data-source="post: 140152" data-attributes="member: 2858"><p>Sorry you are going through this right now. I agree with some of the post regarding difficult child's being spiteful (whether she realizes it may be another matter).</p><p></p><p>My mom met my DAD when she was 5 months preg. they married 4 months after my birth. somewhere along the way I realized my birth certificate had a different last name. So everytime I felt wronged or was mad at DAD I asked for my birth certificate. Not really sure why just something was not right ( I started this probably around 9 or 10) I probably gave them both such heartache. But at that age that really didnt factor in. But looking back it probably did. I was hurting and something was not right, my DAD's name was not on my birth certificate and I had a diff name. This prompted the talk with my mom. Then we had to have a talk with my sibs. </p><p>(side note:when we were having this serious discussion. my mom and me and my sibs. she tells them before she was married she had a daughter, my bro pipes up and asks if dad knew. It was pretty funny, here she was sharing her big secret with only us not husband. kids sometimes are so black and white.)</p><p>To this day as the oldest I have a special relationship with my DAD we are closer than he and my sibs are. My parents eventually divorced, but my dad is still my DAD. </p><p>I had all the fantasies about who my real father could be. (we always dreams of some celebrity/wealth/handsome guy in the mix...lol) And how he could rescue me...save my life with medication history or something equally goofy. New car/clothes.</p><p></p><p>As I have gotten older, it doesnt matter. I love my DAD. He has always been here for me. Warts and all. Hes not perfect, nor am I. The other gave me genes for that I am grateful. Do I want to met him. NO. It's my personal choice. As long as either of my parents are alive, it is unimportant. I would never dream of hurting them over this again. I have never asked other than what he was like. After my mom is gone I will probably have no way to know. Others will probaly disagree. But I know who my real family is.</p><p></p><p>I hope your daughter realizes this too. In time maybe she will. But I know you, as only a true mom can do, just love her unconditionally, guide her and pray for the best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dirobb, post: 140152, member: 2858"] Sorry you are going through this right now. I agree with some of the post regarding difficult child's being spiteful (whether she realizes it may be another matter). My mom met my DAD when she was 5 months preg. they married 4 months after my birth. somewhere along the way I realized my birth certificate had a different last name. So everytime I felt wronged or was mad at DAD I asked for my birth certificate. Not really sure why just something was not right ( I started this probably around 9 or 10) I probably gave them both such heartache. But at that age that really didnt factor in. But looking back it probably did. I was hurting and something was not right, my DAD's name was not on my birth certificate and I had a diff name. This prompted the talk with my mom. Then we had to have a talk with my sibs. (side note:when we were having this serious discussion. my mom and me and my sibs. she tells them before she was married she had a daughter, my bro pipes up and asks if dad knew. It was pretty funny, here she was sharing her big secret with only us not husband. kids sometimes are so black and white.) To this day as the oldest I have a special relationship with my DAD we are closer than he and my sibs are. My parents eventually divorced, but my dad is still my DAD. I had all the fantasies about who my real father could be. (we always dreams of some celebrity/wealth/handsome guy in the mix...lol) And how he could rescue me...save my life with medication history or something equally goofy. New car/clothes. As I have gotten older, it doesnt matter. I love my DAD. He has always been here for me. Warts and all. Hes not perfect, nor am I. The other gave me genes for that I am grateful. Do I want to met him. NO. It's my personal choice. As long as either of my parents are alive, it is unimportant. I would never dream of hurting them over this again. I have never asked other than what he was like. After my mom is gone I will probably have no way to know. Others will probaly disagree. But I know who my real family is. I hope your daughter realizes this too. In time maybe she will. But I know you, as only a true mom can do, just love her unconditionally, guide her and pray for the best. [/QUOTE]
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