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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 221104" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I told my difficult child that she wasn't legally allowed to search until she was 18 and then only with my permission,,which is true. In Ohio she has to be 21 to search on her own. I explained there was a good reason for that law and it was to protect young people until they were mature enough to handle the situation.</p><p></p><p>I once said I believed most adopted children had adoption issues surrounding their birthmothers in particular and I still believe that. It may not surface until the child is an adult but more often is surfaces just about the time it has for your daughter. Often their acting out is a result of the anger they carry for their birthmother but it is directed toward the adoptive mom.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child will be 18 in June and if she asks again I will help her reunite with her birthmother. I once had the same fears you did about her rejecting me/us, but she has rejected us her entire life so that is no longer a fear. I actually think it may help our relationship.</p><p></p><p>But it is different for everyone. I do believe however, that 12 is way to young to be reunited. She will not know what to do with the emotions surrounding that event.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 221104, member: 59"] I told my difficult child that she wasn't legally allowed to search until she was 18 and then only with my permission,,which is true. In Ohio she has to be 21 to search on her own. I explained there was a good reason for that law and it was to protect young people until they were mature enough to handle the situation. I once said I believed most adopted children had adoption issues surrounding their birthmothers in particular and I still believe that. It may not surface until the child is an adult but more often is surfaces just about the time it has for your daughter. Often their acting out is a result of the anger they carry for their birthmother but it is directed toward the adoptive mom. My difficult child will be 18 in June and if she asks again I will help her reunite with her birthmother. I once had the same fears you did about her rejecting me/us, but she has rejected us her entire life so that is no longer a fear. I actually think it may help our relationship. But it is different for everyone. I do believe however, that 12 is way to young to be reunited. She will not know what to do with the emotions surrounding that event. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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