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<blockquote data-quote="ML" data-source="post: 221135"><p>You are her real mother and that will never change. I agree with Nancy that meeting her birthmother at some point could help your relationship if it helps your daughter process that anger. I think waiting till she is 18 is reasonable. A boss I worked for had given a child up for adoption oh say 25 years ago. When the girl was about 14 she wrote to her and basically told her "thank you" for giving me to my family. It was a very neat situation. They later met and my friend went to both her hs and college graduation. </p><p></p><p>My son has met his genetic "mom" and I would have to say it has been both good and not so good. Good in that he doesn't have to fantasize so much about her and not so good because he technically has three brothers and two grown step brothers and yet is basically an only. He think he would like to have been part of a larger family but his disposition does much better as an only lol. I mean if he thinks I give the cat more attention imagine if I had other kids <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>You really are a great mom and your kids are so lucky to have you as their warrior/champion mom.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>ML</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ML, post: 221135"] You are her real mother and that will never change. I agree with Nancy that meeting her birthmother at some point could help your relationship if it helps your daughter process that anger. I think waiting till she is 18 is reasonable. A boss I worked for had given a child up for adoption oh say 25 years ago. When the girl was about 14 she wrote to her and basically told her "thank you" for giving me to my family. It was a very neat situation. They later met and my friend went to both her hs and college graduation. My son has met his genetic "mom" and I would have to say it has been both good and not so good. Good in that he doesn't have to fantasize so much about her and not so good because he technically has three brothers and two grown step brothers and yet is basically an only. He think he would like to have been part of a larger family but his disposition does much better as an only lol. I mean if he thinks I give the cat more attention imagine if I had other kids :) You really are a great mom and your kids are so lucky to have you as their warrior/champion mom. Hugs, ML [/QUOTE]
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