Well I guess the honeymoon is over. During the week difficult child had to be "controlled" and ended up in the emergency room complaining she couldn't move her arm. I spoke to her the same night and she said she couldn't talk, to many people around. Today I went to go visit her and she has a black eye?!!! On the night of the incident, I was told she was upset and sitting on the floor, refusing to sit on the bed and then kicked a staff member which required her to be controlled. Today I read a report that had no mention of the kicking but that she was refusing to sit on the bed vs the floor, used a couple of foul words, threatened to spit and god help me, racial slurs, I cant believe she said something like that. I felt sick to my stomach after hearing that one. Never in her life has she said anything like that. I also know difficult child does not become aggressive unless she is touched first. At the time, I didn't make too much of it. I didnt want to start a big ta do on the weekend with administration not present. Nor did I want to make negative comments in front of difficult child. But now I'm sitting here fuming!!!! In all the times I've had to "control" her or the police have had to intervene were there ever bruises like this and a black eye never the less?! If that had been me, Id have been arrested. I even spoke to her clinician the next day, who never mentioned it, only said she hadnt had a chance to review the incident report, but knew difficult child had to be controlled and difficult child was doing well in the program otherwise. difficult child seems to be ok, a little timid which is good I guess, but unusual for her as she is VERY persistent and demanding, which by the way, is one of the things we are hoping to improve. She seems afraid to ask questions now. I really dont know how to handle this. Any advice?