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Mom? What's a difficult child?
This is something I have been thinking about a lot lately. Especially with how many newbies have been coming here needing wanting help.
So many of us come from such a varied background and have such a wide range of experiences... to say the least!
I hope that what one person experiences doesn't set the groundwork for them to become closed minded or set in their ways, limiting there capacity to remain open to new ideas or able to offer advice from different perspectives?
Because if that were the case I would think that-
* All adoptive parents were Pedophiles (ridiculous right)
*All psychiatrist's were horrible and let their patients starve under their care (another crazy one)
*All AP's make kids sick, drool, gain weight, and are no good!!! (ha ha ha )
* All Mentally Ill people do drugs and drink and have crazy sex (I did it must be true)
* All Mentally Ill people end up committing suicide (My Mom did)
If I went around giving advice based on all of my experiences and only on my bad ones, there are a lot worse ones also... I don't think it would be very fair to the other board members here...and I would be giving horrible advice ( maybe I do anyway) LOL
I try to remain objective and realize that just because something happens to someone, maybe even a bunch of people... it does not make it the gospel.
Even if K didn't make eye contact it does not make her Autistic... Just because and Autistic child makes eye contact, it does not rule it out.
My psychiatrist told me the other day that Topamax does not work on adults at all as a MS!!!
I think that is kind of a blanket statement, kind of stupid if you ask me to just be throwing it out there.
How can he say that? Has he read everything? I am on it... I like it. I might need something more... but it works OK for now.
Anyway I was thinking about some of the board members who have gone through SO much and yet they never bring their own negative C#%P into their advice... I strive to be like that... They remain positive and try to give great advice, honest advice... without all of the BS...
We are not trying to convince people that their children are something, we are not Doctors, what do we care what the diagnosis is? We are trying to help them...
As long as they are getting relief, and help...
I loved my Nuero-psychiatric... but that may not be the answer for everyone, but I am not going to get mad at them, I love my therapist, maybe not for everyone, am I going to get mad at some one for not going to one !!! Ridiculous. If someone really wants to try a medication that I don't agree with... and their psychiatrist honestly feels it is appropriate... I am not going to rant at them... my gosh I am here to support them.
I can give my history of what has worked for me and for my family and K... should there be any anger? NO...
This is science and it is never exact... we are all on a roller coaster ride and we are all in essence Guinea Pigs...
I am not trying to upset or put anyone on the spot, I just want this to be a nice place for the newbies... I have stayed her because of the wonderful advice and help I received when I joined. I want everyone to feel that way...
So many of us come from such a varied background and have such a wide range of experiences... to say the least!
I hope that what one person experiences doesn't set the groundwork for them to become closed minded or set in their ways, limiting there capacity to remain open to new ideas or able to offer advice from different perspectives?
Because if that were the case I would think that-
* All adoptive parents were Pedophiles (ridiculous right)
*All psychiatrist's were horrible and let their patients starve under their care (another crazy one)
*All AP's make kids sick, drool, gain weight, and are no good!!! (ha ha ha )
* All Mentally Ill people do drugs and drink and have crazy sex (I did it must be true)
* All Mentally Ill people end up committing suicide (My Mom did)
If I went around giving advice based on all of my experiences and only on my bad ones, there are a lot worse ones also... I don't think it would be very fair to the other board members here...and I would be giving horrible advice ( maybe I do anyway) LOL
I try to remain objective and realize that just because something happens to someone, maybe even a bunch of people... it does not make it the gospel.
Even if K didn't make eye contact it does not make her Autistic... Just because and Autistic child makes eye contact, it does not rule it out.
My psychiatrist told me the other day that Topamax does not work on adults at all as a MS!!!
I think that is kind of a blanket statement, kind of stupid if you ask me to just be throwing it out there.
How can he say that? Has he read everything? I am on it... I like it. I might need something more... but it works OK for now.
Anyway I was thinking about some of the board members who have gone through SO much and yet they never bring their own negative C#%P into their advice... I strive to be like that... They remain positive and try to give great advice, honest advice... without all of the BS...
We are not trying to convince people that their children are something, we are not Doctors, what do we care what the diagnosis is? We are trying to help them...
As long as they are getting relief, and help...
I loved my Nuero-psychiatric... but that may not be the answer for everyone, but I am not going to get mad at them, I love my therapist, maybe not for everyone, am I going to get mad at some one for not going to one !!! Ridiculous. If someone really wants to try a medication that I don't agree with... and their psychiatrist honestly feels it is appropriate... I am not going to rant at them... my gosh I am here to support them.
I can give my history of what has worked for me and for my family and K... should there be any anger? NO...
This is science and it is never exact... we are all on a roller coaster ride and we are all in essence Guinea Pigs...
I am not trying to upset or put anyone on the spot, I just want this to be a nice place for the newbies... I have stayed her because of the wonderful advice and help I received when I joined. I want everyone to feel that way...