So I guess thank you's been AWOL more often than not the past several days - staff isn't calling me. They should but.... can't say I'm terribly unhappy to *not* be getting the calls at 11 p.m. (especially the nite of the big snow storm last week!). Nothing I can do about it besides worry. He wasn't where he said he'd be on Christmas, called us that afternoon - I suspect ulterior snarky motives (na-na-na-na-naaaaa-na, see Mom, I can do what I want and you can't do anything) but I'm ticked at him anyway so who knows. Anyway, policy is a police report is filed every time he's AWOL. Nothing is ever really done... until today. A detective called TLP this morning to see if thank you showed up. Nope. So staff gave him the minimal information on where they think he is - Goth Girl's house. First name only, and the street they think she lives on. Mr. Detective-of-the-year *found* my son!!! Talked to GG's mom, who by all reports is a major adult difficult child. Well, Mom didn't take too kindly to having police show up (evil chuckle here) so she called TLP and read them the riot act. TLP informed her that thank you is a minor, is supposed to be at TLP every night, does not have permission to spend the night at her house (with her 16-year-old daughter), regardless of what stories thank you is telling her. Mom took offense (image that, LOL). Then staff told her that since she is not thank you's mother or guardian, staff could not discuss it further with her. Staff offered me Mom's name and number. I declined. What's the point? One difficult child in my life is more than enough and quite frankly, I don't think I'll be able to reason with a woman who is letting my son spend the night with her daughter, you know? Nothing I say or do will change that. thank you showed up at TLP yesterday bragging about how "nice" GG's mom was, bought him Christmas presents, cooked him steak for dinner.... gag me. I was *really* hoping that Christmas someplace else would pale in comparison with Christmas at home - guess that didn't work out so well this year. Sigh. I told staff that I'm absolutely not pushing him anymore. He's incredibly volatile right now, very hostile, has destroyed property at the house. I suspect a combination of drugs and not taking his medications. I told staff that I think if we tighten the screws, he may make a really bad choice (leave TLP, lose funding, become lost to services) and that I think we need to wait him out. Perhaps having officers showing up on her doorstep on a regular basis may aggravate GG's mom enough to kick him out at night. Or maybe not.... difficult children are pretty unpredictable. Anyway - at least we do know exactly where he's hanging out now, thanks to Mr. Detective. Bless him!!!