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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 561436" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Oh man, that does not sound fun. Q is super sensitive to any perceived criticism, even if it is just a comment. Recently at school a teacher suggested he shower because he hadn't for a couple of days ...and he sleeps in his clothes. In past he has been obsessed with showering--sometimes doing it multiple times per day--really baths mostly--but lately it is just too much of a bother. He hates being smelly though and was super defensive about it. Now I just asked if he wanted me to wake him up early for a shower or not (a routine question) and he fell apart. I was bullying him and I was mean and a you know what....</p><p></p><p>Uggg, I do think some kids...maybe it is related a little to the insecurity in attachment???, are a little more sensitive to any perceived criticism. Add just being an overtired kid who is developmentally very young, I suppose it is a mix for an explosion. Those kinds of intense encounters take me more than a day to recover from emotionally. It may be too that changing the routine for any reason is not a good idea (give an inch they take a mile kind of thing, or just simply hard to deal with routine changes??) I know that is for sure an issue here too. </p><p></p><p>Just as usual, it was probably the right combination of things creating the perfect storm. Learn what you can, and brace for the next storm....hoping it will only be a rare thing. sigh.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 561436, member: 12886"] Oh man, that does not sound fun. Q is super sensitive to any perceived criticism, even if it is just a comment. Recently at school a teacher suggested he shower because he hadn't for a couple of days ...and he sleeps in his clothes. In past he has been obsessed with showering--sometimes doing it multiple times per day--really baths mostly--but lately it is just too much of a bother. He hates being smelly though and was super defensive about it. Now I just asked if he wanted me to wake him up early for a shower or not (a routine question) and he fell apart. I was bullying him and I was mean and a you know what.... Uggg, I do think some kids...maybe it is related a little to the insecurity in attachment???, are a little more sensitive to any perceived criticism. Add just being an overtired kid who is developmentally very young, I suppose it is a mix for an explosion. Those kinds of intense encounters take me more than a day to recover from emotionally. It may be too that changing the routine for any reason is not a good idea (give an inch they take a mile kind of thing, or just simply hard to deal with routine changes??) I know that is for sure an issue here too. Just as usual, it was probably the right combination of things creating the perfect storm. Learn what you can, and brace for the next storm....hoping it will only be a rare thing. sigh. [/QUOTE]
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