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<blockquote data-quote="pasajes4" data-source="post: 561595" data-attributes="member: 12856"><p>I have filled out more pshyc forms on my son than I care to think of. On several of the forms, there were questions concerning refusal to brush teeth. I thought it odd at the time. I have always wondered what the connection with brushing teeth and psychological issues could be.</p><p></p><p>Praise versus acknowledgement. I took several classes on preschool development that stressed the harm of praising a child. They said that acknowledement let the child know that you are aware of what the child had done, without tacking on the good,wonderful,or the opposite.</p><p></p><p>example: a child colors a picture and shows it to you. You say,"How wonderful." kid is thinking "huh, I think it stinks." Instead they wanted us to do the following:</p><p>Look at the picture and then ask "Tell me about your picture." This eliminates the mistake of calling it a cow when he drew a dog. Mention the colors they used. Notice shapes..... The child is supposed to feel empowred and feel good on their own merit rather than by our judgement. Our kids can smell a phoney compliment a mile away.</p><p></p><p>This would also be about behavior. Instead of saying they were behaving well because of xyz... you would say something like, "I noticed that you were using your indoor voice today." The hard part is to not tack on "good job".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pasajes4, post: 561595, member: 12856"] I have filled out more pshyc forms on my son than I care to think of. On several of the forms, there were questions concerning refusal to brush teeth. I thought it odd at the time. I have always wondered what the connection with brushing teeth and psychological issues could be. Praise versus acknowledgement. I took several classes on preschool development that stressed the harm of praising a child. They said that acknowledement let the child know that you are aware of what the child had done, without tacking on the good,wonderful,or the opposite. example: a child colors a picture and shows it to you. You say,"How wonderful." kid is thinking "huh, I think it stinks." Instead they wanted us to do the following: Look at the picture and then ask "Tell me about your picture." This eliminates the mistake of calling it a cow when he drew a dog. Mention the colors they used. Notice shapes..... The child is supposed to feel empowred and feel good on their own merit rather than by our judgement. Our kids can smell a phoney compliment a mile away. This would also be about behavior. Instead of saying they were behaving well because of xyz... you would say something like, "I noticed that you were using your indoor voice today." The hard part is to not tack on "good job". [/QUOTE]
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