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<blockquote data-quote="ThreeShadows" data-source="post: 561702" data-attributes="member: 6370"><p>An angry difficult child 2, in his twelfth year, said "you're not my real mother anyway!". I waited for the pain to hit my adoptive mother's gut. It didn't and I was shocked at my reaction. I felt certain that he and I were connected for ever. I told him that he was stuck with me until he was 18 and, beyond that age, he could change his name if he so chose. Strangely, this is the child with whom I feel the greatest connection. He recently told me that he has always been a mama's boy. You are J's mama. He's a really smart little boy. He reminds me of my sons. He's sensitive to your feelings.</p><p></p><p> "<span style="color: #000000"> It is kind of hard to explain... but he's just not receptive and child-like as you'd expect in these kind of situations. Instead of listening and absorbing information, he loudly proclaims that he knows exactly what the answer is already - he knows why he does things, he knows what he feels, he doesn't want to listen to any explanations of this or have any sense that he has anything to learn. He is like that with a lot of things - he knows it all already and there's nothing you can tell him".</span><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p></p><p></p><p>Daughter from Russia had the most hellish tantrums. I think the orphanage's inability to provide constant taking care of her needs has left her the least attached of the 3 kids. She needs to feel in control at all times. Tells me I cannot teach her anything that she doesn't already know. She has a certain "knowing" look. You might know what I mean by that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ThreeShadows, post: 561702, member: 6370"] An angry difficult child 2, in his twelfth year, said "you're not my real mother anyway!". I waited for the pain to hit my adoptive mother's gut. It didn't and I was shocked at my reaction. I felt certain that he and I were connected for ever. I told him that he was stuck with me until he was 18 and, beyond that age, he could change his name if he so chose. Strangely, this is the child with whom I feel the greatest connection. He recently told me that he has always been a mama's boy. You are J's mama. He's a really smart little boy. He reminds me of my sons. He's sensitive to your feelings. "[COLOR=#000000] It is kind of hard to explain... but he's just not receptive and child-like as you'd expect in these kind of situations. Instead of listening and absorbing information, he loudly proclaims that he knows exactly what the answer is already - he knows why he does things, he knows what he feels, he doesn't want to listen to any explanations of this or have any sense that he has anything to learn. He is like that with a lot of things - he knows it all already and there's nothing you can tell him".[/COLOR][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] Daughter from Russia had the most hellish tantrums. I think the orphanage's inability to provide constant taking care of her needs has left her the least attached of the 3 kids. She needs to feel in control at all times. Tells me I cannot teach her anything that she doesn't already know. She has a certain "knowing" look. You might know what I mean by that. [/QUOTE]
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