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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 200585" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>My son is 13yo. I still don't let him officially date (date in my definition). Which means, if he wants to call someone a girlfriend, i have no problem. I don't mind if they talk on the phone, do things in a group or hang out at school, but I would not allow "alone time" or take them somewhere where it is only the two of them. He doesn't currently have this situation, but 18 mos ago, there was a 10yo girl who was chasing him. He ate up the attention and was more than a little flattered so she didn't have to chase him much. I had the ssame expectations then as I do now- but she seemed to want a lot more and she obviously knew a lot more and had more experience with things than he did. I had to put a stop to it. I was not comfortable with the idea of my 12yo doing anything physical- especially with a 10yo- and I was bothered by her wanting to do these things at 10yo and seemingly alreaady having experience. My concern is if they are kissing at 10, what will they be doing at 12? They age of consent here is 13yo. Now, if my son did get a girlfriend at 13 (who was his age) and they spent some time getting to know each other and talking a lot and visiting each other at home while supervised, I would be ok with it if they held hands and had a small kiss now and then. But, I'm not going to be comfortable with him actually dating (by my definition) for quite some time. I just want to keep this process moving as slow as I can!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 200585, member: 3699"] My son is 13yo. I still don't let him officially date (date in my definition). Which means, if he wants to call someone a girlfriend, i have no problem. I don't mind if they talk on the phone, do things in a group or hang out at school, but I would not allow "alone time" or take them somewhere where it is only the two of them. He doesn't currently have this situation, but 18 mos ago, there was a 10yo girl who was chasing him. He ate up the attention and was more than a little flattered so she didn't have to chase him much. I had the ssame expectations then as I do now- but she seemed to want a lot more and she obviously knew a lot more and had more experience with things than he did. I had to put a stop to it. I was not comfortable with the idea of my 12yo doing anything physical- especially with a 10yo- and I was bothered by her wanting to do these things at 10yo and seemingly alreaady having experience. My concern is if they are kissing at 10, what will they be doing at 12? They age of consent here is 13yo. Now, if my son did get a girlfriend at 13 (who was his age) and they spent some time getting to know each other and talking a lot and visiting each other at home while supervised, I would be ok with it if they held hands and had a small kiss now and then. But, I'm not going to be comfortable with him actually dating (by my definition) for quite some time. I just want to keep this process moving as slow as I can!! [/QUOTE]
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