OK, I'll risk the "evil eye" and tell you, that I think my difficult child seems to be turning the corner, and all the time, slowly but surely, there seems to be an improvement. He has a girlfriend, about 8 months already. She is a quiet steady girl, she is a good influence on him. I hear him speak to her on the phone not very nicely (he has a foul mouth) but she seems to be OK with this, and they are still together. She comes to our home with him. She sits down and is polite to us and seems to feel OK with us. She participates in family occasions.
He finished 3 years in the military (that was very difficult, but he did it), so it will be on his CV that he served for 3 years, which is very important in our country for his future, since the military is compulsory here.
He served in the military as a driver, and also a bit of a car mechanic. He learned a bit of car mechanics in high school, and he is very good with "fiddling with cars." He has been riding a motorbike since the age of 16, legally. He went after a really good job, was shortlisted, a graphologist analyzed his handwriting, he met with the company director, and he got the job. He has been there for six weeks. He works very hard. The job is as a motorbike salesman, a nationwide firm, working in the branch here in Jerusalem. The first salary was very small because it was after only a few days work. He has just received his first full month's salary, and he is so happy. He works Sunday to Thursday from 8 to 6, and on Friday from 8 to 2, which is very long hours. Every night he leaves a note for my husband to wake him up, even with water if necessary, because it is so important for him to get there on time.
My gut feeling (and I pray to heaven that it is right) is that he is really turning the corner, at long long last. He is behaving better to my husband, after being really awful for so many years. We haven't seen a meltdown for ages. Yes, he loses his temper but it passes very very quickly.
There, you wanted to know. My hopes have been raised in the past, and then dashed, so I was really reluctant to write it, but I do think that maturity also has something to do with it. He is 22. Maybe he is just "growing out of it" slowly but surely.
I hope to read other good updates from you guys.
Love, Esther
has moved the jinx to my office and not our personal lives. Let's keep dancing to keep it away from there, too!
