I finally got a chance to go to the library to borrow the Explosive Child book. Our library was suppose to have a copy but it was indicated as "LOST" so I have requested it from the other libraries in the system. In the mean time, I have found that there looks like interesting reading in 649.64 books (adult non-fiction). I have requested several other books that our library did not have. (1 2 3 Magic, a book about quirky kid or (can't remember), and one or two others). therapist recommended 1 2 3 Magic and the little I read sounds like something I did when my kids were very little - My mom thought I was teaching my daughter sign language - Nope, just trying to get her to behave. I did take out "The Manipulative Child", "The Angry Child", and "Kid Cooperation - How to Stop Yelling, Nagging, and Pleading and Get Kids to Cooperate". Has anyone read these? What do you think of these? Right now I am ignoring pleads from difficult child to come to his room. Most parents have difficulty keeping their children in bed at bedtime, mine refuses to come out if they need anything - would rather have mom "serve" them. I am working on getting difficult child to come find me - no whining and demanding that mom come to him. Earlier tonight - much to my surprise - he actually did come out to me after I told him if he wanted something he needs to come find me. He came and asked me politely to go to his room with him to discuss something. (Hard to believe he is 11 years old - still stuck in the toddler world of "Mommy! Mommy come here!" ) I am starting with "The Manipulative Child" book.