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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 448993" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Exhausted</p><p></p><p>I did my utter best not to ever back Nichole into a corner. That is downright dangerous with a person with Borderline, not to mention most other psychiatric dxes as well. Backing her into a corner would cause her to act on impulses she normally would only have threatened. Instead I tried to untangle the warped thinking patterns and view of reality. It's not easy, you've got to be stubborn, not take things personal, and stay calm as possible. I wasn't perfect at it, but I did my best and most of the time I could stay calm an emotionally uninvolved at least for appearance sake. </p><p></p><p>One of the largest lessons she had to learn was you can treat people, even family who loves you. like total crud one minute and expect them to do for you the next. We dealt with this a lot due to the constant mood shifts. She was ok, so everyone else should be ok. But real life doesn't work that way. So even though we understood, we still had to show her that her behavior triggers emotions in other people as well and they can't always turn it off and on like she can. You can't tell someone you hate them and then go on to describe in detail everything you supposedly hate about the person and expect the same person to take you to the store 10 mins later when your rage is over and you're fine with the world again. She had to learn that her words and actions affect other people. It was one of the hardest lessons. And although family understood what was going on, we had to be careful and not just be as ok with it as she was once those type rages were over. After a full apology and having to explain that she didn't mean what she said ect.....along with how she <strong>really</strong> felt and what she had wanted to<strong> express</strong> was required. Learning this skill helped defuse the rages.</p><p></p><p>I hope difficult child is ok. I'm sorry staff backed her into a corner. Bad practice, staff should've been more educated and experienced than to do that.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 448993, member: 84"] Exhausted I did my utter best not to ever back Nichole into a corner. That is downright dangerous with a person with Borderline, not to mention most other psychiatric dxes as well. Backing her into a corner would cause her to act on impulses she normally would only have threatened. Instead I tried to untangle the warped thinking patterns and view of reality. It's not easy, you've got to be stubborn, not take things personal, and stay calm as possible. I wasn't perfect at it, but I did my best and most of the time I could stay calm an emotionally uninvolved at least for appearance sake. One of the largest lessons she had to learn was you can treat people, even family who loves you. like total crud one minute and expect them to do for you the next. We dealt with this a lot due to the constant mood shifts. She was ok, so everyone else should be ok. But real life doesn't work that way. So even though we understood, we still had to show her that her behavior triggers emotions in other people as well and they can't always turn it off and on like she can. You can't tell someone you hate them and then go on to describe in detail everything you supposedly hate about the person and expect the same person to take you to the store 10 mins later when your rage is over and you're fine with the world again. She had to learn that her words and actions affect other people. It was one of the hardest lessons. And although family understood what was going on, we had to be careful and not just be as ok with it as she was once those type rages were over. After a full apology and having to explain that she didn't mean what she said ect.....along with how she [B]really[/B] felt and what she had wanted to[B] express[/B] was required. Learning this skill helped defuse the rages. I hope difficult child is ok. I'm sorry staff backed her into a corner. Bad practice, staff should've been more educated and experienced than to do that. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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