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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 449126" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Exhausted..Im sorry if I am not completely remembering your daughters history. It doesnt say in your signature but is she adopted? Is there another reason that she would have developed borderline? I still buy into the theory that <strong><em>most</em></strong> people who go onto develop borderline do so because of some sort of trauma or environment that was invalidating to them as a very young child. Now before everyone throws tomatoes at me, some kids inner personalities can just not mesh with the best of parents and the best of homes so that makes them be the invalidating product..or it could happen in a day care or hospital or preschool or such. </p><p></p><p>If your daughter had some form of trauma in her past then I am so not surprised at this behavior. Obviously something has given her the ptsd diagnosis. Does she have any close friends that she relates to well? Something has to give this child something to hope for. Something to look to the future for. Life isnt just the teen years....they are some of the hardest years even though now that I look back I remember some of the stuff with fond memories, they were really tough to go through. </p><p></p><p>As a mom this has to be extremely hard to go through. I know that I have said and done some really horrible stuff. Its the old push me pull me thing. You feel so horribly unworthy of any love. You cannot ever believe anyone will love you and really the more anyone says they do, the more you dont believe them and the more you distrust them. You feel like they are lying to you. Its like you want to keep testing them. Oh really...so if I do this will you hate me? or this? or this?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 449126, member: 1514"] Exhausted..Im sorry if I am not completely remembering your daughters history. It doesnt say in your signature but is she adopted? Is there another reason that she would have developed borderline? I still buy into the theory that [B][I]most[/I][/B] people who go onto develop borderline do so because of some sort of trauma or environment that was invalidating to them as a very young child. Now before everyone throws tomatoes at me, some kids inner personalities can just not mesh with the best of parents and the best of homes so that makes them be the invalidating product..or it could happen in a day care or hospital or preschool or such. If your daughter had some form of trauma in her past then I am so not surprised at this behavior. Obviously something has given her the ptsd diagnosis. Does she have any close friends that she relates to well? Something has to give this child something to hope for. Something to look to the future for. Life isnt just the teen years....they are some of the hardest years even though now that I look back I remember some of the stuff with fond memories, they were really tough to go through. As a mom this has to be extremely hard to go through. I know that I have said and done some really horrible stuff. Its the old push me pull me thing. You feel so horribly unworthy of any love. You cannot ever believe anyone will love you and really the more anyone says they do, the more you dont believe them and the more you distrust them. You feel like they are lying to you. Its like you want to keep testing them. Oh really...so if I do this will you hate me? or this? or this? [/QUOTE]
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