Hi, I am new here too. We adopted a little girl who was not addicted to drugs at birth but was pos. for meth, crack, alcohol, marijuana and I think cocaine. Dr said she was not addicited and she didnt show any signs like DT's or any withdrawl symtoms. Now she is 3 almost 4. Once she started walking, or maybe a little before I have known she has some difficulties with frustration levels. And she has minor delays but not enough to put her in the deviation scale. So basically she hits milestones at her own time. Talked later, walked a little later, etc, but got there and made up for it!!! But has had rage fits since around 14 mo. when she learned to walk. She didnt get "kicked out" of daycare recently but they were calling for me to come get her almost daily. I wont bore you with all the details., but here are some of our struggles
running away from us, and laughing (home and in public)
saying shut up anytime she is denied or she is frustrated
very demanding
bent on doing whatever she wants
hits, kicks
has to be held in time out sometimes or will run off
bed time is rough..we have to wear her down
throws things when angry.( will look right at me and sail whatever things are closest at me or on the floor)
deliberatly knocks things over or down when angry at me
almost constantly in motion when not glued to tv
dosent play alone well, pretty good in group
Seems to constantly be into something(getting the salt and pepper and pouring them out, throwing or pouring water on the floor, grabbing things and running off to throw them around the house, we are always trying to keep up with whatever she has)
I hear alot of folks say, and I do believe to a point.."she is only 3" "thats what toddlers do". I have several other kids with disorders and you would think I could peg this one but there are so many variables...like is it just her strong willed personality
and I dont want to focus on the drug exposure. Actually I try not to mention it but here I thought someone might have some expierience or knowledge concerning that aspect. As far as evaluations go, I got her into see my therepist who has difficult child"s herself and she did write the referal for the local childrens part of the SD to see me. Right now the plan is for our Parents As Teachers lady to see her once a month and I have recently enrolled her in a 2.5 hr preschool, 2 x's a week where she is doing good. My thinking there is she has to get used to authority and classroom conformity so if we have some little successes now, we can build on them until we work up to her going to kindergarten. I am trying to gather a paper trail so when I go back to SD I can say, we have tried these.
I got so much from the post about the book the Exp Child and using it for preschoolers...a lot of great ideas for me. That book and his advice have really helped with our ODD kid. Which this difficult child has observed also...and I see her mimicking some of his actions and I am thinking they are learned.
Her bio mom has mental health diagnosis and is a user, has 3 other bio siblings, all have issues too.
It feels good to tell all this to someone, I focus so much on all our other kids and thier issues and just wonder if this little one is just wild and so much of our lives revolve around getting her out of stuff and trying to keep her settled. I guess my question/vent is any info on out of control 3 yr olds. Thanks, Angela
running away from us, and laughing (home and in public)
saying shut up anytime she is denied or she is frustrated
very demanding
bent on doing whatever she wants
hits, kicks
has to be held in time out sometimes or will run off
bed time is rough..we have to wear her down
throws things when angry.( will look right at me and sail whatever things are closest at me or on the floor)
deliberatly knocks things over or down when angry at me
almost constantly in motion when not glued to tv
dosent play alone well, pretty good in group
Seems to constantly be into something(getting the salt and pepper and pouring them out, throwing or pouring water on the floor, grabbing things and running off to throw them around the house, we are always trying to keep up with whatever she has)
I hear alot of folks say, and I do believe to a point.."she is only 3" "thats what toddlers do". I have several other kids with disorders and you would think I could peg this one but there are so many variables...like is it just her strong willed personality
and I dont want to focus on the drug exposure. Actually I try not to mention it but here I thought someone might have some expierience or knowledge concerning that aspect. As far as evaluations go, I got her into see my therepist who has difficult child"s herself and she did write the referal for the local childrens part of the SD to see me. Right now the plan is for our Parents As Teachers lady to see her once a month and I have recently enrolled her in a 2.5 hr preschool, 2 x's a week where she is doing good. My thinking there is she has to get used to authority and classroom conformity so if we have some little successes now, we can build on them until we work up to her going to kindergarten. I am trying to gather a paper trail so when I go back to SD I can say, we have tried these.
I got so much from the post about the book the Exp Child and using it for preschoolers...a lot of great ideas for me. That book and his advice have really helped with our ODD kid. Which this difficult child has observed also...and I see her mimicking some of his actions and I am thinking they are learned.
Her bio mom has mental health diagnosis and is a user, has 3 other bio siblings, all have issues too.
It feels good to tell all this to someone, I focus so much on all our other kids and thier issues and just wonder if this little one is just wild and so much of our lives revolve around getting her out of stuff and trying to keep her settled. I guess my question/vent is any info on out of control 3 yr olds. Thanks, Angela