well as of dec 9 we moved from one house to another and also moved in my brother in law who has lupus. we wanted to help him out of the living situatition he was in. so far he has been a good addition to our household. and the kids loves him. the good news, with my bro in law now in the home with us now me and husband can finially get some time alone together, without having to talk over screaming or crying kids. the bad news the last 5 days has been a very rocky roller coaster. My 9 y/o difficult child has been all over the emotional board. he has been very irritiable, cranky, and rude. he has returned to stealing and lying. he will steal food from the pantry and hid the wrappers in the couch and then admitally denie that he stole anything. last night he stole a key ring from the tool store, but i didn't find the ring till this am when i sherched his jacket. but he claims he didn't steal it. i asked him if he paid for it and he said no. then i asked if he just took it and he said no. then i asked how it ended up in his jacket and his response? THE JACKET FARIES PUT IN IN HIS POCKET. ???!!!!! so as soon as he gets home from school we will be returning to the tool store and speaking with the manager to see if they will be pressing charges. i have very mixed feeling about this. this is not the 1st time he has stolen something. a few years ago he took 40 dollars out of his grandpas wallet and spent most of it at school. why the school didn't wonder why he had so much cash is beyond me. are they even paying attention? after that incident he moved on to stealing things from the gas station and now the tool store. every time it happens we always end up back at the store talking with the manager. but the manager always has the idea that oh well he's just a kid and we walk out of the store with stern talking to and nothing more. why don't they call the cops on him? i tell them to but no cuz he's just an kid....? he needs to learn a lesson about this stuff and that it's not ok to do it. can i call the cops on him to scare him out of doing it again? so anyway after 4 hours of fighting and a restaint hold he finally told the truth and admitted that he stole it. does any one else have to use a restraint hold on their kids so they won't hurt themselves. is any of this acting out due to starting purbtey? i am so confused. so any way i finally called the doctor and we talked about all his symptoms and she said it sounded like he would be a good candidate for hospitalization. but said it was up to us. she also said it sounded like he might be BiPolar (BP) and made a appointment for us and also incresed his seroquel. he will get his new dose tonight. we will see if it helps. we are still trying to decide if we want to hospitalize him or not. anyway thanks for letting me vent and if anyone has any advice please feel free to tell me.