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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 659821" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Tish, each of us has a breaking point, and it is very healthy to recognize when you are at that breaking point. It sounds like you are.</p><p></p><p>There is no shame in determining what we can do and what we can't do. It's not what we WANT, it's what we CAN. </p><p></p><p>I know it's painful...I can hear it in your writing...and you have tried. This is not your place and your time to take this on.</p><p></p><p>I am learning more and more to say what works for me. If people don't like it, I am sorry. But all I can do is live my life the best I can. I am a giver and I will give and give to people. But at some point, when it's not healthy for me or for them, I have to stop.</p><p></p><p>Tish, it's okay. Please get the professional help you need, a therapist, to walk with you on this path. Let that person facilitate the conversation with you and your husband. If your husband wants to take this on, he can. That is his right. But he needs to be fully aware of what that means, the full scope of it. </p><p></p><p>I'm just so sorry that you are in this spot at this moment in time. It is very hard, I can see. To go either way is very hard. </p><p></p><p>You've already been at the breaking point once, and I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing that with us. We will honor that bad, bad time in your life. I'm so glad you see that you're not going back there, because today, you know you are valuable enough and you have a right to decide what and how you will live.</p><p></p><p>Our DCs make all kinds of bad decisions, and then it's "up to us" to pull them back. Not. We can't pick up all of the slack for other people. We just can't.</p><p></p><p>I'm 58 too, Tish. I in no way want to raise another child. I'm even ready for the cat to go! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> small joke there. </p><p></p><p>Please keep sharing with us! We are here for you. We care and we understand.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 659821, member: 17542"] Tish, each of us has a breaking point, and it is very healthy to recognize when you are at that breaking point. It sounds like you are. There is no shame in determining what we can do and what we can't do. It's not what we WANT, it's what we CAN. I know it's painful...I can hear it in your writing...and you have tried. This is not your place and your time to take this on. I am learning more and more to say what works for me. If people don't like it, I am sorry. But all I can do is live my life the best I can. I am a giver and I will give and give to people. But at some point, when it's not healthy for me or for them, I have to stop. Tish, it's okay. Please get the professional help you need, a therapist, to walk with you on this path. Let that person facilitate the conversation with you and your husband. If your husband wants to take this on, he can. That is his right. But he needs to be fully aware of what that means, the full scope of it. I'm just so sorry that you are in this spot at this moment in time. It is very hard, I can see. To go either way is very hard. You've already been at the breaking point once, and I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing that with us. We will honor that bad, bad time in your life. I'm so glad you see that you're not going back there, because today, you know you are valuable enough and you have a right to decide what and how you will live. Our DCs make all kinds of bad decisions, and then it's "up to us" to pull them back. Not. We can't pick up all of the slack for other people. We just can't. I'm 58 too, Tish. I in no way want to raise another child. I'm even ready for the cat to go! :) small joke there. Please keep sharing with us! We are here for you. We care and we understand. [/QUOTE]
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