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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 659834" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Oh boy Tish. Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry this is all happening to you now. </p><p></p><p>As a grandmother who took on my granddaughter at age 57...and whose husband left me when I made that choice........I can absolutely empathize with you.....</p><p></p><p>I am so so sorry.</p><p></p><p>Here are my 2 cents......to me it sounds as if you are very, very clear on your boundaries, you are not willing nor are you able, to raise your grandson. That is the reality. Your husband cannot or will not see the reality. Before this gets more complex and more time goes by, it seems prudent to address your husband directly and clearly. "This is the reality, this is what I am <u>not </u>willing to do. What are YOU willing to do? OK, now that we've addressed that, exactly what are the real options here?" </p><p></p><p>As hard at it is, your GS is going to need special care, and you are NOT the person to give it, so other options are going to have to come in to play now. But none of it will begin until you make it clear that you are not going to do it. Your husbands response to that is unfortunate, but you still have to follow what is best for you.</p><p></p><p>Raising a child at our age is tough. Raising a special needs child at our age is going to devastate your life Tish......you can already see that and that is the truth........tell your truth and put yourself as the priority now. Take it one step at a time......you already know what you want, now it's communicating that and finding options. </p><p></p><p>You are in a terrible predicament. That does NOT negate that you need to be <em>true to yourself</em>. </p><p></p><p>Take care of you. Keep posting, it helps. We're here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 659834, member: 13542"] Oh boy Tish. Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry this is all happening to you now. As a grandmother who took on my granddaughter at age 57...and whose husband left me when I made that choice........I can absolutely empathize with you..... I am so so sorry. Here are my 2 cents......to me it sounds as if you are very, very clear on your boundaries, you are not willing nor are you able, to raise your grandson. That is the reality. Your husband cannot or will not see the reality. Before this gets more complex and more time goes by, it seems prudent to address your husband directly and clearly. "This is the reality, this is what I am [U]not [/U]willing to do. What are YOU willing to do? OK, now that we've addressed that, exactly what are the real options here?" As hard at it is, your GS is going to need special care, and you are NOT the person to give it, so other options are going to have to come in to play now. But none of it will begin until you make it clear that you are not going to do it. Your husbands response to that is unfortunate, but you still have to follow what is best for you. Raising a child at our age is tough. Raising a special needs child at our age is going to devastate your life Tish......you can already see that and that is the truth........tell your truth and put yourself as the priority now. Take it one step at a time......you already know what you want, now it's communicating that and finding options. You are in a terrible predicament. That does NOT negate that you need to be [I]true to yourself[/I]. Take care of you. Keep posting, it helps. We're here. [/QUOTE]
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