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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 170964" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>BBK, you been hiding. Welcome back (well, kinda...wish all the difficult child troubles magically disappeared and gfgness never brought you back here...)</p><p>***</p><p>The bag thing - don't beat yourself up. What I see that was a real positive in that situation is that you thought thru your options before you acted. Best action to have taken? No. But you knew what attempting a time out would bring on, and that wasn't a reasonable option, either (keeping in mind you also have a 4 year old difficult child standing at your feet that wants his candy, and the last thing you need to bring on is a second meltdown from a second difficult child). Guess what I'm saying is, I'm not sure what you could have done differently, other than giving the 4yo a "backup" handful of candy, which then could be construed by Tink to be a success in her eyes, cause she just got more candy... Anyway, point is, its good you thought about it before you did it, even if it didn't work out.</p><p>***</p><p>in my humble opinion, telling you about the bug and wanting to kill you, even tho its scarey that its so matter of fact, is priceless. Its info and insight as to what's going on in her body, what she feels when this happens. Hopefully, eventually, she can learn to recognize those feelings in advance and prevent the meltdown altogether, but the first step to doing that is to identify, name, and acknowledge what's going on within themselves. Recognizing it and telling you about it is a really big step, I think. </p><p>***</p><p>I so wish I could answer that question - what do I do when.... Million dollar question, right there. I'd be rich if I had that answer. </p><p>***</p><p>Hugs, BBK.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 170964, member: 1848"] BBK, you been hiding. Welcome back (well, kinda...wish all the difficult child troubles magically disappeared and gfgness never brought you back here...) *** The bag thing - don't beat yourself up. What I see that was a real positive in that situation is that you thought thru your options before you acted. Best action to have taken? No. But you knew what attempting a time out would bring on, and that wasn't a reasonable option, either (keeping in mind you also have a 4 year old difficult child standing at your feet that wants his candy, and the last thing you need to bring on is a second meltdown from a second difficult child). Guess what I'm saying is, I'm not sure what you could have done differently, other than giving the 4yo a "backup" handful of candy, which then could be construed by Tink to be a success in her eyes, cause she just got more candy... Anyway, point is, its good you thought about it before you did it, even if it didn't work out. *** in my humble opinion, telling you about the bug and wanting to kill you, even tho its scarey that its so matter of fact, is priceless. Its info and insight as to what's going on in her body, what she feels when this happens. Hopefully, eventually, she can learn to recognize those feelings in advance and prevent the meltdown altogether, but the first step to doing that is to identify, name, and acknowledge what's going on within themselves. Recognizing it and telling you about it is a really big step, I think. *** I so wish I could answer that question - what do I do when.... Million dollar question, right there. I'd be rich if I had that answer. *** Hugs, BBK. [/QUOTE]
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