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<blockquote data-quote="bran155" data-source="post: 187705"><p>Thank you all so much for your kind words and advice. </p><p></p><p>I had no peace last night. They were up until around 4 am, I of course can't sleep until they are asleep so I didn't get to bed until almost 5 am. She woke me up, fully dressed at 7:30 this morning, they were going out!!! "At 7:30 in the morning, where the hell are you going???" She told me they were going to their friends house. Whatever, just leave me the hell alone!!! I finally woke up a couple of hours later to find a mess, of course, clothes all over the place, hair products strewn about my bathroom, make up all over my sink etc..... The usual. </p><p></p><p>Her boyfriend called a couple of times this morning, he ended up apologizing and admitted that he went to a party. So, now he is groveling. He wanted her to go to the city with him today, she said "hell no". I was proud of her for that. Supposedly he is buying her a pair of sneakers and jeans. We'll see....</p><p></p><p>Marg, thanks so much for all of your advice. Good idea to try and reason with her. Even though she lacks that concept, but it's worth a try. Maybe if I don't come at her as a dictator she might get it. Who knows? I am just so at my wits end. She has absolutely no consideration for anyone. She only cares about herself. As it is, we don't really do much for her now. I don't give her rides anywhere, I don't give her any money, I haven't bought her much in the past year and I haven't let her friends come inside the house to hang out. (with the exception of last night) I always tell her as long as she lacks consideration for the rest of us living here then she will have no privileges within our household. I only allowed her friend to sleepover last night because I felt obligated to do so. When my daughter first came home from her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) she spent so much time over this girls house, her mom took really good care of my daughter so I felt I had to return the favor. NO MORE!!! I told her that was the last time I would allow a sleepover until I can see she deserves it.</p><p></p><p>As for the boyfriend, yes he actually asked my permission to take her to the city yesterday. He is here on our porch everyday all day long. It is obvious that he likes her a lot. She, in fact says he is suffocating her!!! I thought it would be the other way around. I thought she would be the one to sabotage the relationship not him. </p><p></p><p>On a good note, she was not high last night. </p><p></p><p>I feel much stronger today, I gain so much strength from all of you. Being able to vent and relate to others on this website really does make a difference!! So thanks to all of you, once again for being here to listen to my belly aching. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>p.s. what about those drugs??? lol</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bran155, post: 187705"] Thank you all so much for your kind words and advice. I had no peace last night. They were up until around 4 am, I of course can't sleep until they are asleep so I didn't get to bed until almost 5 am. She woke me up, fully dressed at 7:30 this morning, they were going out!!! "At 7:30 in the morning, where the hell are you going???" She told me they were going to their friends house. Whatever, just leave me the hell alone!!! I finally woke up a couple of hours later to find a mess, of course, clothes all over the place, hair products strewn about my bathroom, make up all over my sink etc..... The usual. Her boyfriend called a couple of times this morning, he ended up apologizing and admitted that he went to a party. So, now he is groveling. He wanted her to go to the city with him today, she said "hell no". I was proud of her for that. Supposedly he is buying her a pair of sneakers and jeans. We'll see.... Marg, thanks so much for all of your advice. Good idea to try and reason with her. Even though she lacks that concept, but it's worth a try. Maybe if I don't come at her as a dictator she might get it. Who knows? I am just so at my wits end. She has absolutely no consideration for anyone. She only cares about herself. As it is, we don't really do much for her now. I don't give her rides anywhere, I don't give her any money, I haven't bought her much in the past year and I haven't let her friends come inside the house to hang out. (with the exception of last night) I always tell her as long as she lacks consideration for the rest of us living here then she will have no privileges within our household. I only allowed her friend to sleepover last night because I felt obligated to do so. When my daughter first came home from her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) she spent so much time over this girls house, her mom took really good care of my daughter so I felt I had to return the favor. NO MORE!!! I told her that was the last time I would allow a sleepover until I can see she deserves it. As for the boyfriend, yes he actually asked my permission to take her to the city yesterday. He is here on our porch everyday all day long. It is obvious that he likes her a lot. She, in fact says he is suffocating her!!! I thought it would be the other way around. I thought she would be the one to sabotage the relationship not him. On a good note, she was not high last night. I feel much stronger today, I gain so much strength from all of you. Being able to vent and relate to others on this website really does make a difference!! So thanks to all of you, once again for being here to listen to my belly aching. :) p.s. what about those drugs??? lol [/QUOTE]
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