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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 222058" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Marg, All I can say is WOW!! You ALL handled that very very well. You recognized that he had a certain point after which he would do his work AND you let him wait until that time. You didn't insist on "now" which, as we know, doesn't work on our kids usually.</p><p></p><p>You let him go ahead, you caught all his cues that he was having difficulties and you did what was needed to help him be successful.</p><p></p><p>Big pat on the back for YOU! mother in law either helped or didn't stand in your way (not sure - it wasn't mentioned) so pat on the back for her too.</p><p></p><p>It must have been frightening on some levels for difficult child, but he didn't have a meltdown!! That is HUGE!!! And, he used coping tools like going ahead but always making sure he could see you (his security).</p><p></p><p>I think you have covered the bases in what to talk to the doctor about. You might ask if there is any visual therapy that could help him recognize people. I didn't know visual therapy EXISTED until I was waiting for Jess in the school office and a new visual therapist was asking to sign in. Not sure what they do, but maybe they could help.</p><p></p><p>In terms of helping him, first of all would a portable gps system help him? Not sure if you do Xmas gifts the way we do, but it would be a good one. That way he would always have a map and it would show him where he is anytime you are away from hom.</p><p></p><p>I also thin that the way SL, our first ED teacher (we all LOVED her - she reached the unreachable kids and was so great with them, no matter what!) worked with the kids might be helpful.</p><p></p><p>sometimes she would PLAN a change in the schedule for the day and NOT tell the kids. Real life does NOT always follow a schedule or plan. She kept telling the kids to "Roll With It". Whatever it was, she used that line. And by December the kids really WERE rolling with it. </p><p></p><p>When they got anxious she would tell them that the worst thing that could happen was X, and if X happened they they could do Q and still have a good day. </p><p></p><p>I must say that the phrase "Roll With It" made MY life much easier. It helped Wiz let go of some of that Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) need to know every detail about every single moment of the day.</p><p></p><p>It helped Wiz see that even things like being lost were not all bad. For a while when I would take Wiz to the city to see the dev pediatrician we would get "lost" and then find a donut place, or cool park, or neat toy shop, or whatever. Just something to make him see that getting "lost" was NOT the end of the world and that he COULD trust me to get him HOME (but maybe not to find the car in the mall parking lot, LOL!)</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I think you got a LOT of valuable info from this trip with him, and I hope the docs can use it to help even more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 222058, member: 1233"] Marg, All I can say is WOW!! You ALL handled that very very well. You recognized that he had a certain point after which he would do his work AND you let him wait until that time. You didn't insist on "now" which, as we know, doesn't work on our kids usually. You let him go ahead, you caught all his cues that he was having difficulties and you did what was needed to help him be successful. Big pat on the back for YOU! mother in law either helped or didn't stand in your way (not sure - it wasn't mentioned) so pat on the back for her too. It must have been frightening on some levels for difficult child, but he didn't have a meltdown!! That is HUGE!!! And, he used coping tools like going ahead but always making sure he could see you (his security). I think you have covered the bases in what to talk to the doctor about. You might ask if there is any visual therapy that could help him recognize people. I didn't know visual therapy EXISTED until I was waiting for Jess in the school office and a new visual therapist was asking to sign in. Not sure what they do, but maybe they could help. In terms of helping him, first of all would a portable gps system help him? Not sure if you do Xmas gifts the way we do, but it would be a good one. That way he would always have a map and it would show him where he is anytime you are away from hom. I also thin that the way SL, our first ED teacher (we all LOVED her - she reached the unreachable kids and was so great with them, no matter what!) worked with the kids might be helpful. sometimes she would PLAN a change in the schedule for the day and NOT tell the kids. Real life does NOT always follow a schedule or plan. She kept telling the kids to "Roll With It". Whatever it was, she used that line. And by December the kids really WERE rolling with it. When they got anxious she would tell them that the worst thing that could happen was X, and if X happened they they could do Q and still have a good day. I must say that the phrase "Roll With It" made MY life much easier. It helped Wiz let go of some of that Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) need to know every detail about every single moment of the day. It helped Wiz see that even things like being lost were not all bad. For a while when I would take Wiz to the city to see the dev pediatrician we would get "lost" and then find a donut place, or cool park, or neat toy shop, or whatever. Just something to make him see that getting "lost" was NOT the end of the world and that he COULD trust me to get him HOME (but maybe not to find the car in the mall parking lot, LOL!) Anyway, I think you got a LOT of valuable info from this trip with him, and I hope the docs can use it to help even more. [/QUOTE]
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