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<blockquote data-quote="bran155" data-source="post: 212299"><p>Thank you guys for thinking of me. I so appreciate your concern. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Court did not go as expected. The DA was not as nice as on Monday. He didn't even talk with me or my sw today. I went to his office several times to touch base with him to no avail. He was told a few times by my daughter's lawyer to come over to me and he never did. Her lawyer was different today and she was a real b***h!!! </p><p></p><p>Because of the order of protection that was put in place as per regular procedure they would not release my daughter today. The DA nor the judge was willing to amend it so that she would be able to come home. She is not allowed to come home or go near her step-father until the case is closed. So her bail remains at $10,000. It is my belief that the DA did this to ensure that none of her friends would be able to bail her out just for her to wander the streets as she, by law cannot step foot in my house. So I do believe that the DA still has her best interest at heart. I over heard him tell the judge that he just doesn't know the answer. He wasn't sure what to do with her at this point. In the meantime my sw was on the phone the whole time trying to come up with a plan, somewhere for her to go. She spoke with the supervisor at the Dept. of Social Services as we still are under the care of DSS as well as Family Court. My DSS case worker has decided that my daughter belongs back in placement even if she is going to be 18 in 3 months. She is not doing well and they are still responsible for her. I have also learned that just because she will be 18 soon does not mean that she has the right to sign herself out of placement. She can only do so if I agree to let her come back home to live (which I will NOT) or she has another appropriate plan. So 18 is not the magic number after all!!! Thank God. My sw has found a place for her to go in the meantime, while DSS finds another Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for her. We go back to court on the 20th at which time, if all goes as planned, she will be taken to a crisis program where she will stay for 21 days, be evaluated and put back on medications. From there she will go to yet another Residential Treatment Center (RTC). This will be her 4th one. In the meantime I have left several messages for the DA to call me so that we can be on the same page and have everything set for our next court date. I wanted to slap her lawyer!!! She barely gave me 3 seconds to talk and when she saw that I was crying and upset she threw her hands in the air and said, verbatim, "I just cannot deal with this today" I couldn't believe it. I stormed out of the court room and said "thanks for nothing, and if you were in my shoes you would be upset too" The lawyer she had on Monday was much nicer.</p><p></p><p>I left the court in hysterics, I was and am still very upset. Although I do believe we did the right thing, I just feel horrible that she will spend another week in jail. She is an absolute mess, hair all over the place, very manic, and visibly unstable. Very hard to look at her. She called me a little while after court. She sounded better than I expected, she wasn't angry she was actually remorseful and wants very badly to speak to her step-father to opologize. She said that she is not mad at us, that it wasn't our fault it was hers. She kept repeating that she loved her step-dad and wants to say sorry to him. She called 3 times asking for him. He wasn't with me today, he was in the city all day going on job interviews. So she will be calling later to speak to him. Is she finally getting it? I don't know. I just know that it made me feel a lot better hearing her say those things. The fact that she wasn't angry at us anymore says a lot. That's not to say I think everything will be great. I'm no fool and have a long history with this child and know that she is still the same kid who a week ago stole our debit card and went shopping. I can only hope she is learning something from this experience. Only time will tell. I am glad that she will be getting re-evaluated and put back on her medications. Her not being able to live here is a blessing as we just can't take anymore and she doesn't do well unless she is in a structured environment with constant supervision. So I am keeping my finger's crossed that everything goes as planned. I will keep you all posted.</p><p></p><p>Thank you again. God bless. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bran155, post: 212299"] Thank you guys for thinking of me. I so appreciate your concern. :) Court did not go as expected. The DA was not as nice as on Monday. He didn't even talk with me or my sw today. I went to his office several times to touch base with him to no avail. He was told a few times by my daughter's lawyer to come over to me and he never did. Her lawyer was different today and she was a real b***h!!! Because of the order of protection that was put in place as per regular procedure they would not release my daughter today. The DA nor the judge was willing to amend it so that she would be able to come home. She is not allowed to come home or go near her step-father until the case is closed. So her bail remains at $10,000. It is my belief that the DA did this to ensure that none of her friends would be able to bail her out just for her to wander the streets as she, by law cannot step foot in my house. So I do believe that the DA still has her best interest at heart. I over heard him tell the judge that he just doesn't know the answer. He wasn't sure what to do with her at this point. In the meantime my sw was on the phone the whole time trying to come up with a plan, somewhere for her to go. She spoke with the supervisor at the Dept. of Social Services as we still are under the care of DSS as well as Family Court. My DSS case worker has decided that my daughter belongs back in placement even if she is going to be 18 in 3 months. She is not doing well and they are still responsible for her. I have also learned that just because she will be 18 soon does not mean that she has the right to sign herself out of placement. She can only do so if I agree to let her come back home to live (which I will NOT) or she has another appropriate plan. So 18 is not the magic number after all!!! Thank God. My sw has found a place for her to go in the meantime, while DSS finds another Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for her. We go back to court on the 20th at which time, if all goes as planned, she will be taken to a crisis program where she will stay for 21 days, be evaluated and put back on medications. From there she will go to yet another Residential Treatment Center (RTC). This will be her 4th one. In the meantime I have left several messages for the DA to call me so that we can be on the same page and have everything set for our next court date. I wanted to slap her lawyer!!! She barely gave me 3 seconds to talk and when she saw that I was crying and upset she threw her hands in the air and said, verbatim, "I just cannot deal with this today" I couldn't believe it. I stormed out of the court room and said "thanks for nothing, and if you were in my shoes you would be upset too" The lawyer she had on Monday was much nicer. I left the court in hysterics, I was and am still very upset. Although I do believe we did the right thing, I just feel horrible that she will spend another week in jail. She is an absolute mess, hair all over the place, very manic, and visibly unstable. Very hard to look at her. She called me a little while after court. She sounded better than I expected, she wasn't angry she was actually remorseful and wants very badly to speak to her step-father to opologize. She said that she is not mad at us, that it wasn't our fault it was hers. She kept repeating that she loved her step-dad and wants to say sorry to him. She called 3 times asking for him. He wasn't with me today, he was in the city all day going on job interviews. So she will be calling later to speak to him. Is she finally getting it? I don't know. I just know that it made me feel a lot better hearing her say those things. The fact that she wasn't angry at us anymore says a lot. That's not to say I think everything will be great. I'm no fool and have a long history with this child and know that she is still the same kid who a week ago stole our debit card and went shopping. I can only hope she is learning something from this experience. Only time will tell. I am glad that she will be getting re-evaluated and put back on her medications. Her not being able to live here is a blessing as we just can't take anymore and she doesn't do well unless she is in a structured environment with constant supervision. So I am keeping my finger's crossed that everything goes as planned. I will keep you all posted. Thank you again. God bless. :) [/QUOTE]
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