I just found this site and feel so relieved that there are others like our family. My oldest boy, 11, has been hard since he was born.... rigid, noise/feel/taste sensitive, tics, incredible tantrums (although god forbid I call them "tantrums".. that is enough to get one going), focused and slightly obbessive, reactive. He has been seeing a therapist for two years and every time I broach the subject of moving on to a more thorough evaluation and possibly medications, everyone (including the therapist) blows me off. He did give me a recommendation for a neuro-psychiatric who sounds great but she doesn't take insurance and the evaluation costs $3200. Does that sound out of the ballpark?? My other two kids, 9 and 5, my ddh, and myself are walking around on eggshells trying not to set my oldest off. On so many levels he is wonderful. Academically brilliant, loving, creative, funny. Just his horrendous temper and a completely irrational view of the world when he is off the rocker. He claims he doesn't feel loved, that life is unfair to him, it is ALWAYS everyone else's fault, screaming, stamping, slamming doors. It is escalating into swearing, throwing things.... I worry for what is next. When he calms down he is apologetic, feels terrible about himself, and wants "not to do that anymore... how can I make it stop mom?" It makes me so sad. I want to get help but I am overwhelmed by the information and the diagnoses, the medications. This is tearing up my marriage as husband is just now willing to admit that we NEED help. Something is going on that he won't just grow out of. Also... I notice everyone has long sigs.. I don't know what they mean so I'll tell you that husband and I are 40 and 38. Both teachers. Son is 11 with everthing described above. Other children: son, 9, sweet and sensitive. Daughter, 5, loving, outgoing and empathetic.