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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 563271"><p>OH PG - I think your fears are warranted. I am sorry if I am coming off as an alarmist and please do not read on if it's the wrong time ...</p><p></p><p>Her fear of being chase and her need for 20K wasn't making sense until I remembered that her boyfriend is in jail</p><p></p><p>I wasn't sure why he was arrested - I searched the back posts and read that it was drug trafficking - not distribution. So it was a substantial amount of whatever substance. And the PD must have seized the drugs and/or the income at the time of the arrest. In my limited anecdotal experience with people who sold drugs...it's done "on consignment" - especially if it's a larger amount than normal. I imagine her boyfriend owes someone for the drugs (and/or the cash) that were seized at the time of his arrest. She must have been a part of it, even if she was just along for the ride. And since they can't get it from him, they will look to get it from her. And that's why she needs to raise 20K ASAP.</p><p></p><p>*****WARNING ALARM AHEAD****</p><p></p><p>When we talked to our trusted ATOD counselor about enabling/not enabling difficult child last year - specifically about when we should and shouldn't give him money - the counselor replied emphatically that the ONLY time we should give him money - no questions asked - is if he owed a dealer, because we wouldn't get a second chance. I remember it - may have even posted about it - because it really upset me. We were being told not to give him food money, not to pay off his tuition, but to absolutely pay off his dealer if the time ever came. It upset me to the point where I asked a few people about it - my sister in law who is a Chicago Cop, H's friend who is a DEA agent, and another friend with a checkered past - all of whom absolutely agreed with the advice and restated emphatically that the dealer needs to be paid. My naive suburban mom mind was absolutely blown by this "absolute" information and it made me sick. An I filed it away until now.</p><p></p><p>I am not suggesting that you pay off the money. I would guess that you could do a little digging as to her boyfriend's arrest and verify the amount of contraband if you need to. Maybe even call the DA anonymously and explain what is going on? Maybe they have advice? Even if she can come up with the 20K to buy herself time, it will likely just restart the cycle of her needing to be on the run because she owes someone.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I am sorry to be such an alarmist - but I fear this is bigger than you or her. And I don't think her story is fanciful. </p><p></p><p>I would consider getting her far out of town. I think talking to the DA or the DEA might be a good start to find out what her best options are. </p><p></p><p>{{{{hugs}}} and prayers</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 563271"] OH PG - I think your fears are warranted. I am sorry if I am coming off as an alarmist and please do not read on if it's the wrong time ... Her fear of being chase and her need for 20K wasn't making sense until I remembered that her boyfriend is in jail I wasn't sure why he was arrested - I searched the back posts and read that it was drug trafficking - not distribution. So it was a substantial amount of whatever substance. And the PD must have seized the drugs and/or the income at the time of the arrest. In my limited anecdotal experience with people who sold drugs...it's done "on consignment" - especially if it's a larger amount than normal. I imagine her boyfriend owes someone for the drugs (and/or the cash) that were seized at the time of his arrest. She must have been a part of it, even if she was just along for the ride. And since they can't get it from him, they will look to get it from her. And that's why she needs to raise 20K ASAP. *****WARNING ALARM AHEAD**** When we talked to our trusted ATOD counselor about enabling/not enabling difficult child last year - specifically about when we should and shouldn't give him money - the counselor replied emphatically that the ONLY time we should give him money - no questions asked - is if he owed a dealer, because we wouldn't get a second chance. I remember it - may have even posted about it - because it really upset me. We were being told not to give him food money, not to pay off his tuition, but to absolutely pay off his dealer if the time ever came. It upset me to the point where I asked a few people about it - my sister in law who is a Chicago Cop, H's friend who is a DEA agent, and another friend with a checkered past - all of whom absolutely agreed with the advice and restated emphatically that the dealer needs to be paid. My naive suburban mom mind was absolutely blown by this "absolute" information and it made me sick. An I filed it away until now. I am not suggesting that you pay off the money. I would guess that you could do a little digging as to her boyfriend's arrest and verify the amount of contraband if you need to. Maybe even call the DA anonymously and explain what is going on? Maybe they have advice? Even if she can come up with the 20K to buy herself time, it will likely just restart the cycle of her needing to be on the run because she owes someone. I am sorry to be such an alarmist - but I fear this is bigger than you or her. And I don't think her story is fanciful. I would consider getting her far out of town. I think talking to the DA or the DEA might be a good start to find out what her best options are. {{{{hugs}}} and prayers [/QUOTE]
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