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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 173048" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>You are way more patient than I am, Gunga Din. I hear "I'm bored" and I give two choices -- find something to do or I'll find you something and I promise you won't like what I find. Even worse, once I find it you're stuck doing it. </p><p> </p><p>She really is old enough for you to quit. Quit entertaining her. Quit making suggestions for her (she's gonna say no anyway -- tis the nature of the age and beast). Quit trying to fix her. She really does have to start doing the work herself. A therapist will help her but she's still going to have to do the work. You can't keep doing it all for her. You certainly don't deserve the brunt of her discontent, even though you'll get it as a matter of course. Again, it is the nature of the age. She's not a little girl anymore, she's not an adult, she's not an independent teen. She's in the Hades of kidhood and it stinks. It stinks for her, it stinks for you, it stinks for the world around her. But she really is going to have to find her own way with just a little guidance from you (okay, flat out shoves but she has to do the work, not you).</p><p> </p><p>In the meantime, major hugs for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 173048, member: 3626"] You are way more patient than I am, Gunga Din. I hear "I'm bored" and I give two choices -- find something to do or I'll find you something and I promise you won't like what I find. Even worse, once I find it you're stuck doing it. She really is old enough for you to quit. Quit entertaining her. Quit making suggestions for her (she's gonna say no anyway -- tis the nature of the age and beast). Quit trying to fix her. She really does have to start doing the work herself. A therapist will help her but she's still going to have to do the work. You can't keep doing it all for her. You certainly don't deserve the brunt of her discontent, even though you'll get it as a matter of course. Again, it is the nature of the age. She's not a little girl anymore, she's not an adult, she's not an independent teen. She's in the Hades of kidhood and it stinks. It stinks for her, it stinks for you, it stinks for the world around her. But she really is going to have to find her own way with just a little guidance from you (okay, flat out shoves but she has to do the work, not you). In the meantime, major hugs for you. [/QUOTE]
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