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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 173382" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>Heather, I am having PTSD just reading this post. </p><p> </p><p>The best advice I can give you is to detach. Do not take ANYTHING she says personally. Try not to give too much direction - do more 'and how is that working for you?' answers. When she is bored - the response is 'I am so sorry to hear that.' If she takes well to humor - use it ALOT. If she gets bored hearing about you, then follow that 'I am sorry to hear that response' with a very long, boring story about what you did when you were bored. Do not feed into her 'me' syndrome. </p><p> </p><p>At 13, I had no idea what I was in for in the next few years. I do not envy you. Hang on because it will be a bumpy ride. You have to prepare yourself and find an escape mechanism now. Be prepared. </p><p> </p><p>The washing the face thing I still deal with. Heck, I told her I would get her proactive if she could prove to me she would use it. All she had to do was wash her face every evening for a month. We bought new facial wash for her. It lasted all of two days. Obviously, the acne is not bothering her that much. </p><p> </p><p>The killer is when my mom comes to me to tell me my daughter could use some acne cream and should probably see a dermatologist. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /> I told her as soon as she could show me she would follow the direction of the dermatologist, by following one simple direction from me, I would take her.</p><p> </p><p>I really think the detachment is what got difficult child and I through the worst of the dark years.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 173382, member: 391"] Heather, I am having PTSD just reading this post. The best advice I can give you is to detach. Do not take ANYTHING she says personally. Try not to give too much direction - do more 'and how is that working for you?' answers. When she is bored - the response is 'I am so sorry to hear that.' If she takes well to humor - use it ALOT. If she gets bored hearing about you, then follow that 'I am sorry to hear that response' with a very long, boring story about what you did when you were bored. Do not feed into her 'me' syndrome. At 13, I had no idea what I was in for in the next few years. I do not envy you. Hang on because it will be a bumpy ride. You have to prepare yourself and find an escape mechanism now. Be prepared. The washing the face thing I still deal with. Heck, I told her I would get her proactive if she could prove to me she would use it. All she had to do was wash her face every evening for a month. We bought new facial wash for her. It lasted all of two days. Obviously, the acne is not bothering her that much. The killer is when my mom comes to me to tell me my daughter could use some acne cream and should probably see a dermatologist. :raspberry-tounge: I told her as soon as she could show me she would follow the direction of the dermatologist, by following one simple direction from me, I would take her. I really think the detachment is what got difficult child and I through the worst of the dark years. [/QUOTE]
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