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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 240713" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">JJJ,</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I had a copy of RTCs rules before either of the tweedles returned home from their individual stints there. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Saying that, we practiced before they come home the "stop & think". It was a literal stop, drop to the floor & think when either of them acted out. Before they could get up they had to tell staff why they were in a stop & think, listen to the adult's point of view & apologize before they could get up. It's a very succinct way of doing things & it did make a big impact at home once kt &/or wm believed we meant it. If they didn't comply the world, as they knew it, stopped. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Slowly, very slowly, we let up on RTCs rules however kept the ones that worked the best in place. kt survived; wm ended up in another setting than home. Sometimes it works ~ others it doesn't.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">What is working for your difficult child at Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? Something you & husband can work on together. difficult children siblings are going to have to learn to "take their places" when difficult child gets out of line. This takes a lot of planning & support from outside resources if you have them.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">As for husband caving, it can't be. You know that. If difficult child tries to triangulate you could use a "stop the world" each & every time so she knows that you & husband are on the same page. The tweedles would get caught staff splitting at Residential Treatment Center (RTC) & boy did the world stop.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">In the meantime, a difficult child will need a lot of building up ..... she has to believe in herself & her family. AND that may be a hard sell.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Is psychiatrist willing to offer a PRN for Kanga? Is crisis team in place & ready for her return to the community? Has there been research into group homes or foster home for Kanga if this blows up? It's definitely cheaper than Residential Treatment Center (RTC) (I'm sure funding is a huge part of this).</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Good luck, my friend. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 240713, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]JJJ, I had a copy of RTCs rules before either of the tweedles returned home from their individual stints there. Saying that, we practiced before they come home the "stop & think". It was a literal stop, drop to the floor & think when either of them acted out. Before they could get up they had to tell staff why they were in a stop & think, listen to the adult's point of view & apologize before they could get up. It's a very succinct way of doing things & it did make a big impact at home once kt &/or wm believed we meant it. If they didn't comply the world, as they knew it, stopped. Slowly, very slowly, we let up on RTCs rules however kept the ones that worked the best in place. kt survived; wm ended up in another setting than home. Sometimes it works ~ others it doesn't. What is working for your difficult child at Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? Something you & husband can work on together. difficult children siblings are going to have to learn to "take their places" when difficult child gets out of line. This takes a lot of planning & support from outside resources if you have them. As for husband caving, it can't be. You know that. If difficult child tries to triangulate you could use a "stop the world" each & every time so she knows that you & husband are on the same page. The tweedles would get caught staff splitting at Residential Treatment Center (RTC) & boy did the world stop. In the meantime, a difficult child will need a lot of building up ..... she has to believe in herself & her family. AND that may be a hard sell. Is psychiatrist willing to offer a PRN for Kanga? Is crisis team in place & ready for her return to the community? Has there been research into group homes or foster home for Kanga if this blows up? It's definitely cheaper than Residential Treatment Center (RTC) (I'm sure funding is a huge part of this). Good luck, my friend. [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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