That's bizarre! I'm so glad we don't have anything like that!
Here, of course we as parents sign to indicate our kids are opening the account with our knowledge and permission, but it doesn't mean it's our bank account in any way; in no way are the kids' accounts ever tied financially to parental ones. If a kid over-draws, then it's the kid's money and once he's out of money, he's out of money. No 'top-up' from parents. A kid with debts, such as a kid who gets a credit card and spends thousands - the kid is legally responsible and the bank might come after the parents. Usually though, especially for a kid over 16, they pay their own bills unless an adult chooses to bail them out. Mostly the bank cuts it losses if it can't get the money from the kid, especially if the parent is on record as saying they do not give permission for that credit card to be issued.
We have student bank accounts. They are fee-free and usually begin with the school student account which almost all kids get opened for them when they are 5. Needs parental permission, but the kids learn early on how to operate their own bank account. Usually with only a couple of dollars. difficult child 3 still has his student account, it remains a student account (fee-free) while he is on disability and also a student. Even after he is 18.
We've set it up so there is no way difficult child 3 can get a credit card. He has a debit card but it operates on his account only, which is only his pension money and nothing else. husband & I are with the same bank, so are the other kids. When difficult child 1 was looking like having to declare bankruptcy, there was absolutely no hint that the creditors would be able to touch even his wife's bank accounts. Any joint accounts were a target, but if she could prove that a certain amount was hers, they couldn't touch that. Rules of bankruptcy - if they owned their own home it was safe Their own car (below a certain value) was safe. Wife's assets - safe. A certain amount of income allowed to cover basic living expenses - safe. Anything else, they could take including contents of bank accounts and investment accounts. difficult child 1 had incurred his debt by writing off his car, so he immediately spent what money he had in his account, replacing it. He was entitled to a car. So when the insurance company tried to get money from him, he simply had nothing for them. And there was absolutely no ay that anybody could have come after us.
Mind you, if we had begun to pay their bills for them, we could have been in trouble and so could they.
SUsie, if our banking system was at all likely to take my money to pay my kid's over-spending (especially if they gave him the credit card in the first place) then I would do as you did and change banks, or even start stuffing my money into my mattress.
But I still want to say to these people who want ANYONE to hand free money to a kid who can't handle it - "Why don't you let him have access to all his disability money, then have him withdraw money to pay his rent and facility bills in cash? If you don't think that is acceptable or appropriate, ten having his account linked to anybody else's so his spending can be out of control with no consequences, is also unacceptable and inappropriate."
Can't have it both ways.
Marg