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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 635878" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I think there should be some rule that you MUST live with a difficult child as your responsibility for X years before you can be a social worker. I lost count of the number of absolute idiots that we dealt with. From the abusive to the parents ones to the 'he just needs regular beatings' ones, very few of the social workers were useful for anything at all. The best ones were often the ones hwo said outright that we found more resources than they knew of, and had already done way more than they could, so they could nto help us or judge us. Sadly, most of them thought they had the magic fix for our kids, and usually it amounted to giving the difficult child anything they wanted. I will say that even Wiz thought these 'solutions' were stupid. Mostly he found them stupidly hilarious, which made him egg the SWs into ever more stupid suggestions. Very few of them ever caught on to the manipulation, which makes me wonder how they train these people.</p><p></p><p>Good for you for not falling for her abusive tactics. I would complain to the head of the hospital system that she works for. Not her boss, the BIG boss of the hospital. There is no call for such unprofessional treatment, and hospital heads HATE to be told that employees are abusive. Plus, your son is an adult, so really telling you everything likely violated his HIPPAA rights in some way which is another thing head honchos hate to hear! It is an easy way to get the hospital off your back, if nothing else.</p><p></p><p>Next time, tell the SW that HIPPAA means that she cannot discuss your son with you, so she should call your son about this. Yes, your son is in hte hospital, but this is HIS business and not yours, so she should contact him. Give her the runaround, if nothing else it can be entertaining to hear them try to talk their way out of your circular logic. Or it can be to me, but I have an odd little mind when annoyed by mean people over issues like this.</p><p></p><p>the large and small of this is that you don't owe your son anything. He is an adult and the sooner he stops depending on you, the sooner he will grow up and manage his own life. You did everything you could and then some, and he didn't respond to any of it. So now he needs to figure it out for himself because he sure won't listen to you except to manipulate and abuse you. You owe it to yourself to NOT sacrifice your life on the altar of his mental illness. If the SW doesn't like it, well, she can go talk to him or sacrifice her own life on the altar of his mental illness, Know what I mean??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 635878, member: 1233"] I think there should be some rule that you MUST live with a difficult child as your responsibility for X years before you can be a social worker. I lost count of the number of absolute idiots that we dealt with. From the abusive to the parents ones to the 'he just needs regular beatings' ones, very few of the social workers were useful for anything at all. The best ones were often the ones hwo said outright that we found more resources than they knew of, and had already done way more than they could, so they could nto help us or judge us. Sadly, most of them thought they had the magic fix for our kids, and usually it amounted to giving the difficult child anything they wanted. I will say that even Wiz thought these 'solutions' were stupid. Mostly he found them stupidly hilarious, which made him egg the SWs into ever more stupid suggestions. Very few of them ever caught on to the manipulation, which makes me wonder how they train these people. Good for you for not falling for her abusive tactics. I would complain to the head of the hospital system that she works for. Not her boss, the BIG boss of the hospital. There is no call for such unprofessional treatment, and hospital heads HATE to be told that employees are abusive. Plus, your son is an adult, so really telling you everything likely violated his HIPPAA rights in some way which is another thing head honchos hate to hear! It is an easy way to get the hospital off your back, if nothing else. Next time, tell the SW that HIPPAA means that she cannot discuss your son with you, so she should call your son about this. Yes, your son is in hte hospital, but this is HIS business and not yours, so she should contact him. Give her the runaround, if nothing else it can be entertaining to hear them try to talk their way out of your circular logic. Or it can be to me, but I have an odd little mind when annoyed by mean people over issues like this. the large and small of this is that you don't owe your son anything. He is an adult and the sooner he stops depending on you, the sooner he will grow up and manage his own life. You did everything you could and then some, and he didn't respond to any of it. So now he needs to figure it out for himself because he sure won't listen to you except to manipulate and abuse you. You owe it to yourself to NOT sacrifice your life on the altar of his mental illness. If the SW doesn't like it, well, she can go talk to him or sacrifice her own life on the altar of his mental illness, Know what I mean?? [/QUOTE]
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