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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 438887" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>And there-in, Step, lies a big chunk of our problem. Cause even if something HAS a home? Its highly unlikely he'll ever put it there....</p><p></p><p>A couple years after he moved in, we spent an entire weekend in Sept cleaning out and organizing ALL the sheds because he was getting so angry at the boys for never putting anything back where they found it. So I asked him, <em>where, pray-tell, do these things go?</em> And he had no answer. I said you can't expect them to put something <em>away</em> when there is no <em>away place </em>to put it. They find it where it was last used...they put it where they found it...where it was last used. At the time, there were 4 people using stuff..."last used" was pretty darned open to interpretation. So I said, ok, lets fix this problem. We all spent the weekend cleaning, throwing out, making piles of like items and discussing where they should "live", and creating homes for everything. </p><p></p><p>The ramps, oil drain pans, chains and booms are all to go on the east wall of the kennel barn. We spent a little money to buy those heavy duty hooks to put on the wall to hold the ramps and chains. All of the coolers and camping stuff went on the shelves in the machine shed along the back wall. We bought a metal shelving unit to add to the shelves already there for it. My scroll saw was put on a heavy table in the shop, and the skill saw, jig saw, and belt sander, etc went in the cupboards.</p><p></p><p>Jumper cables, tools, battery chargers, etc went on the north wall of the kennel barn. Tack that we use in the tack room, everything else in storage containers in the loft. easy child 1 welded hooks out of horse shoes - 2 for each horse. One set is in the tack room for each horse's bridle, and one set outside the door for each horse's halter and lead rope. Bought 7 good saddle racks and mounted in the tack room for the saddles, and built 2 harness racks for the harness. Gardening tools went in the old well house. Put hooks on the wall for hoes. Did the same in the shop for shovels, etc. fencing supplies are in a wooden box in the machine shed. Steel posts and wooden posts are in the corner on the back wall.</p><p></p><p>None of it has ever been used by husband beyond that first day. EVER. If you had to catch all of the horses at one time, you couldn't do it. Couldn't find enough lead ropes and halters. Lead ropes are tied all over the place. One is being used as the rope to an old pulley he found and put up in the kennel barn. Never used it. Don't know why its there. but it required one of our long lead ropes. Another is tying a gate shut. Another is in the garden. There's one on the sidewalk at the house, just lying there, rotting. I just found the booms that we own the other day rounding up batteries to take to the recycle place. They are thrown in with the fence posts. I am taking them, painting them, and hiding them at this point. one set of ramps is lying in the yard, where husband threw them. The others are probably at his folks. I finally gave easy child 1 the third set that was mine so husband would stop blaming him for taking the others (cause it wasn't easy child). One of husband's old wooden ramps that he can't find is blocking a hole in the chicken fence. I didn't put it there, and I highly doubt easy child 1 did, either.</p><p></p><p>he mowed the extension cord he used to charge the battery in my old car and then didn't pick up. Along with jumper cables he used to try to jump start it. And a lariat that he left in the yard. The pieces of all of these items? He cleaned out of the mower and left lying, to be mowed again.</p><p></p><p>And he decided to put a bumper on the little truck he's driving so he can "pull stuff" cause its too big of a pain to come home and get a truck. So he now has a solid steel bumper on a 1984 rusty to the point of breaking S10 that I've spent more money to get on the road than cost initially to buy. We don't own a trailer smaller than 16ft. Exactly WHAT is he going to pull with that? And why, when we have 2 3/4 ton diesel trucks? And ya know, I wouldn't have really cared, but he screwed up the lights on the truck when he put the bumper on, and it had to go to the shop to get fixed, and he had it so screwd up, they had to put a new wiring harness in the truck to fix it. And I haven't even gotten the bill, nor do I really want to. It will probably be $200+ and the mechanic told him he wouldn't pull a radio flyer little red wagon with it for fear it will pull the truck in two (its that rusty).</p><p></p><p>inside is no different. Stuff is just stuck here, there, and everywhere. I have filing boxes for important things. He has titles to his old truck and at least 2 trailers in a popcorn tin that he can't locate. A small lunch-box size igloo cooler on top of the porch fridge has trailer parts, led auto lights, 4 or 5 measuring tapes, some tax receipts, and a plastic thing to put fishing line on a reel in it. Last I looked. Its full. So now he has a fruit box up there, too, that he's started putting a similar assortment of stuff in. None of which even belongs in the house, let alone in a cooler on top of a fridge.</p><p></p><p>There's a climbing deer stand right outside the door on the ground. It was on the porch.</p><p></p><p>I just can't keep up with it unless I give up my life and just do nothing but run around and pick up the pieces behind him. Its just not humanly possible. So its either even the load, or reduce the load, and this is his chance to even the load, cause I already told him, he's not gonna like it if I start reducing it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 438887, member: 1848"] And there-in, Step, lies a big chunk of our problem. Cause even if something HAS a home? Its highly unlikely he'll ever put it there.... A couple years after he moved in, we spent an entire weekend in Sept cleaning out and organizing ALL the sheds because he was getting so angry at the boys for never putting anything back where they found it. So I asked him, [I]where, pray-tell, do these things go?[/I] And he had no answer. I said you can't expect them to put something [I]away[/I] when there is no [I]away place [/I]to put it. They find it where it was last used...they put it where they found it...where it was last used. At the time, there were 4 people using stuff..."last used" was pretty darned open to interpretation. So I said, ok, lets fix this problem. We all spent the weekend cleaning, throwing out, making piles of like items and discussing where they should "live", and creating homes for everything. The ramps, oil drain pans, chains and booms are all to go on the east wall of the kennel barn. We spent a little money to buy those heavy duty hooks to put on the wall to hold the ramps and chains. All of the coolers and camping stuff went on the shelves in the machine shed along the back wall. We bought a metal shelving unit to add to the shelves already there for it. My scroll saw was put on a heavy table in the shop, and the skill saw, jig saw, and belt sander, etc went in the cupboards. Jumper cables, tools, battery chargers, etc went on the north wall of the kennel barn. Tack that we use in the tack room, everything else in storage containers in the loft. easy child 1 welded hooks out of horse shoes - 2 for each horse. One set is in the tack room for each horse's bridle, and one set outside the door for each horse's halter and lead rope. Bought 7 good saddle racks and mounted in the tack room for the saddles, and built 2 harness racks for the harness. Gardening tools went in the old well house. Put hooks on the wall for hoes. Did the same in the shop for shovels, etc. fencing supplies are in a wooden box in the machine shed. Steel posts and wooden posts are in the corner on the back wall. None of it has ever been used by husband beyond that first day. EVER. If you had to catch all of the horses at one time, you couldn't do it. Couldn't find enough lead ropes and halters. Lead ropes are tied all over the place. One is being used as the rope to an old pulley he found and put up in the kennel barn. Never used it. Don't know why its there. but it required one of our long lead ropes. Another is tying a gate shut. Another is in the garden. There's one on the sidewalk at the house, just lying there, rotting. I just found the booms that we own the other day rounding up batteries to take to the recycle place. They are thrown in with the fence posts. I am taking them, painting them, and hiding them at this point. one set of ramps is lying in the yard, where husband threw them. The others are probably at his folks. I finally gave easy child 1 the third set that was mine so husband would stop blaming him for taking the others (cause it wasn't easy child). One of husband's old wooden ramps that he can't find is blocking a hole in the chicken fence. I didn't put it there, and I highly doubt easy child 1 did, either. he mowed the extension cord he used to charge the battery in my old car and then didn't pick up. Along with jumper cables he used to try to jump start it. And a lariat that he left in the yard. The pieces of all of these items? He cleaned out of the mower and left lying, to be mowed again. And he decided to put a bumper on the little truck he's driving so he can "pull stuff" cause its too big of a pain to come home and get a truck. So he now has a solid steel bumper on a 1984 rusty to the point of breaking S10 that I've spent more money to get on the road than cost initially to buy. We don't own a trailer smaller than 16ft. Exactly WHAT is he going to pull with that? And why, when we have 2 3/4 ton diesel trucks? And ya know, I wouldn't have really cared, but he screwed up the lights on the truck when he put the bumper on, and it had to go to the shop to get fixed, and he had it so screwd up, they had to put a new wiring harness in the truck to fix it. And I haven't even gotten the bill, nor do I really want to. It will probably be $200+ and the mechanic told him he wouldn't pull a radio flyer little red wagon with it for fear it will pull the truck in two (its that rusty). inside is no different. Stuff is just stuck here, there, and everywhere. I have filing boxes for important things. He has titles to his old truck and at least 2 trailers in a popcorn tin that he can't locate. A small lunch-box size igloo cooler on top of the porch fridge has trailer parts, led auto lights, 4 or 5 measuring tapes, some tax receipts, and a plastic thing to put fishing line on a reel in it. Last I looked. Its full. So now he has a fruit box up there, too, that he's started putting a similar assortment of stuff in. None of which even belongs in the house, let alone in a cooler on top of a fridge. There's a climbing deer stand right outside the door on the ground. It was on the porch. I just can't keep up with it unless I give up my life and just do nothing but run around and pick up the pieces behind him. Its just not humanly possible. So its either even the load, or reduce the load, and this is his chance to even the load, cause I already told him, he's not gonna like it if I start reducing it. [/QUOTE]
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