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<blockquote data-quote="therese005us" data-source="post: 277340" data-attributes="member: 7416"><p>this sounds so similar to my son (now 19) of that age and a little beyond. My son had no emotional attachment to anything or anyone (Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)) or their belongings. If he wanted somethng, he would just take it.... money, books, whatever. It was embarrassing to take him out. If we were on holidays we had to leave him outside like a dog (not tied to a lamp post or anything) because he would randomlly steal. </p><p>I started locking up my purse. I was naive in my love for him because I wanted to trust him; so it came as quite a shock to discovr he was stealing from me. He stole from several of his part time bosses and was sacked.... It caused numerous arguments. I hated having to lock doors, treasures, money up.</p><p> </p><p>The good news is, that it improves. He has been home now for xix months and initially I still locked up money, changed the hiding places for my purse (even I couldn't find it sometimes) and so on. Now I am cofident he wont steal from me, I can relax. He did bring home several pieces of clothing and shoes that he admttted to stealing. so, I've suggested to him that he won't be wearing them around me. They're stolen goods. Suggested making restiitution, but that will come, I pray. Right now, he won't He says "I'm over it" and that he won't do it again.</p><p> </p><p>What I'm trying to say, is take heart, it will improve. This is all part of his condition... and calling the police is really not going to make a lot of difference (been there) because he has no emotional attachment to the behaviour. However, it has reinforced to hm that youwon't tolerate that behaviour and there are consequences. So that is good from that point of view. I do agree with you. But I wouldn't bother making a habit of it... I don't think at this stage, it will reinforce it anymore.</p><p>Good luck, I hope this helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="therese005us, post: 277340, member: 7416"] this sounds so similar to my son (now 19) of that age and a little beyond. My son had no emotional attachment to anything or anyone (Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)) or their belongings. If he wanted somethng, he would just take it.... money, books, whatever. It was embarrassing to take him out. If we were on holidays we had to leave him outside like a dog (not tied to a lamp post or anything) because he would randomlly steal. I started locking up my purse. I was naive in my love for him because I wanted to trust him; so it came as quite a shock to discovr he was stealing from me. He stole from several of his part time bosses and was sacked.... It caused numerous arguments. I hated having to lock doors, treasures, money up. The good news is, that it improves. He has been home now for xix months and initially I still locked up money, changed the hiding places for my purse (even I couldn't find it sometimes) and so on. Now I am cofident he wont steal from me, I can relax. He did bring home several pieces of clothing and shoes that he admttted to stealing. so, I've suggested to him that he won't be wearing them around me. They're stolen goods. Suggested making restiitution, but that will come, I pray. Right now, he won't He says "I'm over it" and that he won't do it again. What I'm trying to say, is take heart, it will improve. This is all part of his condition... and calling the police is really not going to make a lot of difference (been there) because he has no emotional attachment to the behaviour. However, it has reinforced to hm that youwon't tolerate that behaviour and there are consequences. So that is good from that point of view. I do agree with you. But I wouldn't bother making a habit of it... I don't think at this stage, it will reinforce it anymore. Good luck, I hope this helps. [/QUOTE]
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