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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 450013" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>GVC,</p><p></p><p>When I was reading your post yesterday about your husband and the casino, I had a feeling it wasn't going to be good. I grew up with a gambler and red flags were going off. What struck me about your post, though, was it wasn't being confronted head on. I suppose that is what I would have done, but I didn't want to comment on your marriage or what you should or shouldn't do. You're a smart lady and have been married to this man a long time. In my case, I would have smacked down going to that casino so fast. Especially considering that he blew off going on an important marriage ritual for you as a couple. </p><p></p><p>As far as I'm concerned, he has jeopardized his family and shows signs of a compulsive gambler. He should be cut off from the joint money that is used to pay bills, feed, cloth, and house children, pay medical expenses. Open his own checking account of which he gets an allowance. Whatever you think is reasonable. Period. </p><p></p><p>My brother keeps all the money he makes separate from my sister in law because she has "money problems". She's a lovely lady in many ways, except money and being on time (that's another story). I completely control the money in my house. It was one of the conditions husband agreed to when we got married. My Dad gambled so much money away and destroyed businesses doing it. What it put me through as a child left a huge mark, so I was upfront and said I have to control the money. You'll have access, you can ask questions and I'll be happy to answer and show you, but I control. He agreed. </p><p></p><p>This is a huge issue that cannot be danced around. psychiatrist or not psychiatrist, this is something you need to deal with directly with husband also. </p><p></p><p>I guess I'm not quite understanding not confronting husband.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 450013, member: 831"] GVC, When I was reading your post yesterday about your husband and the casino, I had a feeling it wasn't going to be good. I grew up with a gambler and red flags were going off. What struck me about your post, though, was it wasn't being confronted head on. I suppose that is what I would have done, but I didn't want to comment on your marriage or what you should or shouldn't do. You're a smart lady and have been married to this man a long time. In my case, I would have smacked down going to that casino so fast. Especially considering that he blew off going on an important marriage ritual for you as a couple. As far as I'm concerned, he has jeopardized his family and shows signs of a compulsive gambler. He should be cut off from the joint money that is used to pay bills, feed, cloth, and house children, pay medical expenses. Open his own checking account of which he gets an allowance. Whatever you think is reasonable. Period. My brother keeps all the money he makes separate from my sister in law because she has "money problems". She's a lovely lady in many ways, except money and being on time (that's another story). I completely control the money in my house. It was one of the conditions husband agreed to when we got married. My Dad gambled so much money away and destroyed businesses doing it. What it put me through as a child left a huge mark, so I was upfront and said I have to control the money. You'll have access, you can ask questions and I'll be happy to answer and show you, but I control. He agreed. This is a huge issue that cannot be danced around. psychiatrist or not psychiatrist, this is something you need to deal with directly with husband also. I guess I'm not quite understanding not confronting husband. [/QUOTE]
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