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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 450627" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>The subject of allowance did come up. I've always assumed he'd feel degraded by this, but it sounds like it might be a good option. Either that, or I lower his credit card limit to $500 and take away his ATM card. Lord knows I've pounded into his head that he is NEVER to take another cash advance off a credit card again. Years ago when we were living the high life and could afford lavish trips to Vegas, he would often blow through his cash and then just go get an advance on a credit card, not realizing the enormous price tag that comes with it. </p><p></p><p>As it stands now, his payroll check is auto-deposited to our checking account. But I manage all the bills, the investments (ha! like we have money for that anymore!), taxes, etc. He does some grocery shopping, but rarely if ever uses a list based on what we need or already have, and almost NEVER uses coupons -- and he buys on impulse. So he'll come home with things that aren't on sale or things that we already have enough of, or he'll buy a lot of something perishable (like meat) and get home to discover that there's no room for it in the freezer. And guess who has to figure out what to do with all this? Maybe if he was the one doing the cooking he'd have a better idea of what we needed and what we have. But he doesn't really cook (thankfully). And he's impulsive about gift shopping as well. Doesn't stick to a budget and always goes too far. Like for Mother's Day this year, instead of getting me just ONE bottle of shower gel and maybe ONE bottle of lotion, he gets me TWELVE because it was a Buy-3-Get-1-Free sale. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite11" alt=":rolleyes:" title="Roll Eyes :rolleyes:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":rolleyes:" /> </p><p></p><p>Except for today, he never takes his lunch. Ever. Or at least hasn't in about 17 or 18 years. He says he has to get out of the office and would go nuts if he sat at his desk or in the break room to eat every day. He needs to get out. And when he goes to lunch, that's all he does. He doesn't multitask or run errands. I remember when I worked full-time I spent my lunch hour eating my lunch AND getting my oil changed or picking up dry cleaning or doing Christmas shopping or mailing my bills (back before we had the internet and online billpay <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> ) or reading or some days I'd even find time to go for a walk! But not him. Which is amazing to me because he is the supreme multitasker with the type of work he does (data analysis). </p><p></p><p>For now, we are in a holding pattern. I suspect this will last at least until his psychiatrist appointment because right now, he's still licking his wounds and hiding (spent the last three evenings upstairs, as usual, watching TV and playing Spider Solitaire while the rest of us hung out downstairs acting like a family). Depending on how next Tuesday goes, we'll see where we go from there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 450627, member: 3444"] The subject of allowance did come up. I've always assumed he'd feel degraded by this, but it sounds like it might be a good option. Either that, or I lower his credit card limit to $500 and take away his ATM card. Lord knows I've pounded into his head that he is NEVER to take another cash advance off a credit card again. Years ago when we were living the high life and could afford lavish trips to Vegas, he would often blow through his cash and then just go get an advance on a credit card, not realizing the enormous price tag that comes with it. As it stands now, his payroll check is auto-deposited to our checking account. But I manage all the bills, the investments (ha! like we have money for that anymore!), taxes, etc. He does some grocery shopping, but rarely if ever uses a list based on what we need or already have, and almost NEVER uses coupons -- and he buys on impulse. So he'll come home with things that aren't on sale or things that we already have enough of, or he'll buy a lot of something perishable (like meat) and get home to discover that there's no room for it in the freezer. And guess who has to figure out what to do with all this? Maybe if he was the one doing the cooking he'd have a better idea of what we needed and what we have. But he doesn't really cook (thankfully). And he's impulsive about gift shopping as well. Doesn't stick to a budget and always goes too far. Like for Mother's Day this year, instead of getting me just ONE bottle of shower gel and maybe ONE bottle of lotion, he gets me TWELVE because it was a Buy-3-Get-1-Free sale. :rolleye: Except for today, he never takes his lunch. Ever. Or at least hasn't in about 17 or 18 years. He says he has to get out of the office and would go nuts if he sat at his desk or in the break room to eat every day. He needs to get out. And when he goes to lunch, that's all he does. He doesn't multitask or run errands. I remember when I worked full-time I spent my lunch hour eating my lunch AND getting my oil changed or picking up dry cleaning or doing Christmas shopping or mailing my bills (back before we had the internet and online billpay ;) ) or reading or some days I'd even find time to go for a walk! But not him. Which is amazing to me because he is the supreme multitasker with the type of work he does (data analysis). For now, we are in a holding pattern. I suspect this will last at least until his psychiatrist appointment because right now, he's still licking his wounds and hiding (spent the last three evenings upstairs, as usual, watching TV and playing Spider Solitaire while the rest of us hung out downstairs acting like a family). Depending on how next Tuesday goes, we'll see where we go from there. [/QUOTE]
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