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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 105458" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Hello Paris,</p><p></p><p>You've already received some great advice from GG, BBK and Wyntersgrace. It does sound like your son feels entitled to a free ride, and believes that having an illness makes him exempt from responsibility.</p><p></p><p>We have been dealing with this with my son for the last few years. My difficult child tries to use his disability as an excuse to get out of anything he doesn't want to do. And he's become very adept at using the language of therapy to manipulate people. </p><p></p><p>The "party line" in our house is: your actions, your responsibility. I tell my difficult child that the world doesn't care about his diagnosis or his disability, and they won't let him use it as an excuse for bad behaviour, so neither will I because it's my job to turn him into a responsible adult. Yes, many things are much harder for him than they are for neurotypical people, but that's something he's going to have to deal with all his life.</p><p></p><p>Does your son use drugs in your home? I agree with BBK. At 18, living with parents is a privilege, no longer a right. If he's not willing to work, pay you rent, take on some of the household responsibilities, and not break the law by smoking pot, then he hasn't earned the right to live in your home.</p><p></p><p>Best of luck, and keep posting to let us know how things are going.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 105458, member: 3907"] Hello Paris, You've already received some great advice from GG, BBK and Wyntersgrace. It does sound like your son feels entitled to a free ride, and believes that having an illness makes him exempt from responsibility. We have been dealing with this with my son for the last few years. My difficult child tries to use his disability as an excuse to get out of anything he doesn't want to do. And he's become very adept at using the language of therapy to manipulate people. The "party line" in our house is: your actions, your responsibility. I tell my difficult child that the world doesn't care about his diagnosis or his disability, and they won't let him use it as an excuse for bad behaviour, so neither will I because it's my job to turn him into a responsible adult. Yes, many things are much harder for him than they are for neurotypical people, but that's something he's going to have to deal with all his life. Does your son use drugs in your home? I agree with BBK. At 18, living with parents is a privilege, no longer a right. If he's not willing to work, pay you rent, take on some of the household responsibilities, and not break the law by smoking pot, then he hasn't earned the right to live in your home. Best of luck, and keep posting to let us know how things are going. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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