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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 108285" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Just a suggestion.</p><p></p><p>If, on yellow days (and yellow simply means try harder) you are keeping him from his favorite cartoon, his favorite snack, going outside, AND extra attention that you would otherwise give him if he had a green days, he may be too overwhelmed to try for those green days. That is a lot of punishment for a yellow day, if yellow simply means he could do better.</p><p></p><p>You mentioned that academically, he needs to try harder. Perhaps a lot of his acting out is due to his frustration that he isn't getting things as easily as his peers. </p><p></p><p>Perhaps (remember, on this board take what works and throw out the rest) you might start the new year with something like this. "OK Beaner, let's make a pact that you are going to try your best. That is all I ask for, that you do the very best you can". Hopefully, you get the BIP and other things in place. In the meantime, if he continues to consistently bring home yellows, then I'd say that yellow is his average, and I would not fault him for that. I would not take anything away from him at home on yellow days, as was mentioned earlier, or he will spend his life grounded. </p><p></p><p>If he gets a red or orange day, appropriate consequences should be administered. Now, if out of the blue he brings home a green day? Buy him a slurpee or something. I mean, don't tell him that this is what you have been waiting for, but let him know that you are so very proud of him. Make him want to do it again.</p><p></p><p>Green days may be the exception to the rule for him, at least right now. Accept that. At least right now. And get your hands on Explosive Child. Yesterday.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there, Mama.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 108285, member: 3647"] Just a suggestion. If, on yellow days (and yellow simply means try harder) you are keeping him from his favorite cartoon, his favorite snack, going outside, AND extra attention that you would otherwise give him if he had a green days, he may be too overwhelmed to try for those green days. That is a lot of punishment for a yellow day, if yellow simply means he could do better. You mentioned that academically, he needs to try harder. Perhaps a lot of his acting out is due to his frustration that he isn't getting things as easily as his peers. Perhaps (remember, on this board take what works and throw out the rest) you might start the new year with something like this. "OK Beaner, let's make a pact that you are going to try your best. That is all I ask for, that you do the very best you can". Hopefully, you get the BIP and other things in place. In the meantime, if he continues to consistently bring home yellows, then I'd say that yellow is his average, and I would not fault him for that. I would not take anything away from him at home on yellow days, as was mentioned earlier, or he will spend his life grounded. If he gets a red or orange day, appropriate consequences should be administered. Now, if out of the blue he brings home a green day? Buy him a slurpee or something. I mean, don't tell him that this is what you have been waiting for, but let him know that you are so very proud of him. Make him want to do it again. Green days may be the exception to the rule for him, at least right now. Accept that. At least right now. And get your hands on Explosive Child. Yesterday. Hang in there, Mama. [/QUOTE]
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