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Can I discipline my 20 year old daughter if i support her?
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<blockquote data-quote="compassion" data-source="post: 541447" data-attributes="member: 6393"><p>Welcome to the boards! In my experince as a mom of a 19 year old very implusive, who also acts more like 12 , she cannot handle her own money. I dole out to her a bit each day connected to her doing stuff. It is what is realsitc. She has spent thousands ,very simlar type stuff. I have to lock my credit cards in a safe and she does not live with me. This is what i do: she gets a pack of cigs for taking am medications and one for pm medications. She gets 15 dollars for attending her community college class. She gets 5 dollars for going to AA or NA. She gets 30 dollars in a shopping spree for attending p-doctor, t-doctor or lab appts. </p><p> She has a new p-doctor and as on her june 14 appointment., the p-doctor wanted me to let her handle her own money and administer her own medications. Well, I tried it for 3 days, she took the 30 dollars and bought mj with it. She almost got Baker Acted becasue she did not take her nighttime lithium and was drving erratically, crashed into BMW. She has a permit , not a license for this reason (instability/not sober). Since then, she has not driven my car. She is learning to navigate the bus system. I also give her coupons for fun stuff like a Busch Gardens pass, restruant coupons, and movie passes.</p><p> Realsitcially, her going to school is what she can handle, it is a bit of a strtech, depending on the day. </p><p>She did work at Plato's closet for 7 days last month before shcool started but handling that on a regular basis ,not realstic. She did finish two reading prep classes in 7 weeks, that is huge for her. She is taking writing prep during summer B. My experence.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="compassion, post: 541447, member: 6393"] Welcome to the boards! In my experince as a mom of a 19 year old very implusive, who also acts more like 12 , she cannot handle her own money. I dole out to her a bit each day connected to her doing stuff. It is what is realsitc. She has spent thousands ,very simlar type stuff. I have to lock my credit cards in a safe and she does not live with me. This is what i do: she gets a pack of cigs for taking am medications and one for pm medications. She gets 15 dollars for attending her community college class. She gets 5 dollars for going to AA or NA. She gets 30 dollars in a shopping spree for attending p-doctor, t-doctor or lab appts. She has a new p-doctor and as on her june 14 appointment., the p-doctor wanted me to let her handle her own money and administer her own medications. Well, I tried it for 3 days, she took the 30 dollars and bought mj with it. She almost got Baker Acted becasue she did not take her nighttime lithium and was drving erratically, crashed into BMW. She has a permit , not a license for this reason (instability/not sober). Since then, she has not driven my car. She is learning to navigate the bus system. I also give her coupons for fun stuff like a Busch Gardens pass, restruant coupons, and movie passes. Realsitcially, her going to school is what she can handle, it is a bit of a strtech, depending on the day. She did work at Plato's closet for 7 days last month before shcool started but handling that on a regular basis ,not realstic. She did finish two reading prep classes in 7 weeks, that is huge for her. She is taking writing prep during summer B. My experence. [/QUOTE]
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